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commentr/StutterDec 22, 2024
3 points

Not to be tooo graphic/blunt.... [Rant on] But i have a Negan baseball available - for the mouth of anyone who dares to suggest something as stupid as that! [Rant off]...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterDec 22, 2024
8 points

Embarrassing moment (stutter w/dyslexia - GREAT combo! NOT!)

Embarrassing moment (stutter w/dyslexia - GREAT combo! NOT!) So... been going to this local brewery for past couple years. Am a regular of sorts. Was there on fri eve... was very busy plus i was me...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 22, 2024
7 points

Yea I’ve held myself back from ALOT of opportunities in life including jobs because I stutter or get blocked when saying my name it is really embarrassing and I’m trying to deal with it but it truly i...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesEmployment & CareerShame & Embarrassment
postr/StutterDec 22, 2024
30 points

Has anyone here lost a job, or find it difficult to get employed in the first place, due to their stutter?

Has anyone here lost a job, or find it difficult to get employed in the first place, due to their stutter? God I hate stuttering sometimes. I think I was born with mine but it's so fucking embarrassin...

School & WorkEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Employment & CareerShame & EmbarrassmentAvoidance & Substitution+1 more
postr/StutterDec 21, 2024
23 points

Anxiety and stuttering just led to one of the most humiliating nights of my life

Anxiety and stuttering just led to one of the most humiliating nights of my life For the past few years I'd been working on dealing with my stutter, anxiety, and on general self improvement. I thought...

Emotional ExperienceCauses & VariabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentStress & Fight/FlightAvoidance & Substitution+3 more
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2024
2 points

>Maybe my life would have turned out differently. I mean it's better now, but it's been fucking rough! I get this sentiment 10000%. Shame is a strong emotion that doesn't go away easily. None of us d...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Shame & EmbarrassmentSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2024
2 points

Wow thank you for this. I wish my mom or my teachers had stuck up for me. They would just ignore it and hope it would go away, but it only got worse. When i was 9, a male teacher said in front of the ...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingTrauma & PsychologicalShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2024
3 points

Who is "we"? When I was in first grade, my teacher was some guy who probably shouldn't have been teaching. Back then my stutter was horrible. I remember how exhausting and humiliating it was to have i...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesStigma & BullyingTrauma & Psychological+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2024
3 points

If you get the solution, please tell me cause the last time i was talking to this beautiful lady sitting beside me and i blocked so hard while telling her what the time was when she asked me made me s...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentDating & Romance
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2024
2 points

In this situation, I would pretend I wasn't feeling good and wasn't hungry, just to avoid saying my name. Sad but true....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2024
3 points

Beautifully written. I experienced the same thing today when going to pick up my prescription at the pharmacy — which ironically enough, if I don’t have, I end up stuttering more. Sitting in the dri...

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2024
4 points

Very well written. I could feel what you felt. It's painful to think of the things we do to avoid embarrassing ourselves. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
6 points

I can't either, in fact most people who stutter this is one of the toughest parts of speech. I'm sure people have theories why. Worst for me is when I do manage to get my name out and don't stutter. I...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
postr/StutterDec 17, 2024
28 points

I can’t even say my own name

I can’t even say my own name This is one of my biggest struggles and sources of embarrassment. Recently, I was at the club and a guy asked me for a cigarette, he then asked me my name and i couldn’t g...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Feared Words & NamesShame & EmbarrassmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
2 points

Just adding to what others have said - totally understandable it should feel so difficult to talk about, we all carry so many complex feelings and shame around stammering. Do you stutter most around p...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
postr/StutterDec 16, 2024
8 points

I messed up

I messed up I've had a stutter for as long as I can remember now, it used to be really bad but got better as I grew up and I thought I'd gotten completely over my stutter and parts of my anxiety until...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Anxiety & Social JudgmentBlocks & StoppagesShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
2 points

I was covert for more than half my life, so 30+ years. I felt like such a fraud all the time, but I thought it was safer than potentially looking stupid, or being humiliated. I lied to myself and trie...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
5 points

did the same thing with my girlfriend for years. last month i honestly just came clean with everything and it felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders. i told her about how i stutter on my name wh...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-PerceptionShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
2 points

I have the same thing where my stutter is so hard for me to talk about. Do you think it might not be as overwhelming if you texted him about it and explained it instead of telling him in person?...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
22 points

I am going to be honest with you. Your boyfriend knows.  For example, everyone I know, knows that I stutter. But no one brings it up. People don't really talk about others disability, it's weird awk...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride+1 more