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commentr/StutterNov 23, 2020
1 points

If you avoid sweating, eventually everything makes you sweat. If you avoid anxiety, eventually everything makes you anxious. If you avoid stuttering, eventually everything will make you stutter. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 23, 2020
1 points

He does want to talk to someone about mental health too, I think it’s just become a bit circular because he doesn’t know what to do first. He told me when we first met that he was finding it hard bec...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & Support
Avoidance & SubstitutionAdvice Requests
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
2 points

Another engineer, civil/environmental. I haven't had to give any sort of presentation (yet) but I do have to do site visits, talk with clients, call various regulatory agencies on the phone, etc. I ch...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
3 points

I just always have my phone handy and I'll just give then a "hold on a sec" gesture and type out a quick note on my phone and show them. Quick and versatile. When someone asks my name and I have a ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
2 points

I do think that’s a stupid question, or at least a stupid way to phrase it. “Explain why you cannot be contacted by telephone call.” If someone can’t be contacted by phone it’s probably for a sensitiv...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
2 points

Depends on the stutterer. If the stuttering is severe and it takes them a minute to say three words, texting/emailing would be more practical, convenient, and will save time and unnecessary struggle....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
2 points

As long as more often then not you do the things that make you uncomfortable. They'll just stay uncomfortable rather then full blown fears...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
3 points

Hm, I don't think we can reliably count on anyone understanding sign language. Perhaps keep pre-written actual signs/notes on your person (analog or digital) for when it's rough?...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
3 points

I'm sorry you feel that way and thank you for sharing it here. What are things you want to do? How are you going to get there? Do those things step by step, and allow any feeling or thought in the ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
6 points

i stutter too and im a 18f freshman in uni right now so rip me. there’s been so many times where i just break down and just think about how my life would be so much better if i didn’t stutter. i do be...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentHope & Motivation+2 more
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
2 points

I think this is a really interesting idea. My guess is that they would hesitate but not stutter....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
1 points

Trust me and please again trust me. They do not care as much as you. What’s the worst that could happen when you stutter? In fact i would argue to stutter more. That way everyone at your job knows you...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
4 points

Engineer here! I’m not going to lie, meetings and presentations are still challenging for me, but I’ve found that in the course of my day-to-day work (in a manufacturing plant), no one even cares abo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
2 points

Both. You don’t “have a stutter” like others would have you believe. Everyone from seasoned talk show hosts to average joes stutter. But what makes us different from them, you may ask? Other people do...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
0 points

Hmmm so what do we have here? A person that is seems "supportive" that tries to understand a person that stutters and confort her like tell her that "it's ok i do it too!". But the person who stutter...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionValidation & EmpathyIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
1 points

Thank you! I completely agree about the smaller things. When giving a speech or presenting something I can usually start just fine at least, but interrupting a teacher to inform them that a student is...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterNov 20, 2020
1 points

It actually seems like I'm talking to myself. I have all the exact same traits. I'm not a smooth talker. I'm assuming you're not as well. Online dating helped me. You don't actually have to go to a ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDating & Romance
commentr/StutterNov 20, 2020
1 points

I have a weekly work meeting and I experience this too. I practice before the meeting and it's all great until it's my turn to talk. I've honestly learned to say screw it and embrace it, I say Uhms ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesFrustration & Anger
commentr/StutterNov 20, 2020
4 points

This is extremely helpful! I agree with everything here. I used to work retail too, and it helped tremendously. My speech therapist calls it "turning your voice on" the more you talk the better or mo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterNov 20, 2020
17 points

So I've stuttered since I was 7 too. I'm 33 now, and have stuttered consistently since then. It comes and goes in severity for me, but it'd definitely more severe when I'm stressed or thinking/overthi...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightSeverity & Fluctuation+1 more