Both. You don’t “have a stutter” like others would have you believe. Everyone from seasoned talk show hosts to average joes stutter. But what makes us different from them, you may ask? Other people don’t care about stuttering. They don’t fixate on it. They don’t try to speak perfectly at all times and instead accept that it’s okay to be a little sloppy. If you’ve ever noticed how often people use fillers such as “like” or “um” or how people barely enunciate, then you already know that sloppiness is the norm for everyone except us stutterers. So instead of trying to ignore or accept stuttering, focus on letting go of it. In other words, become indifferent to it. If you want further research, I encourage you to read [this](https://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/kuster/Infostuttering/steringdies.html) from a recovered stutterer.