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commentr/StutterJan 11, 2020
1 points

It sucks and it's funny at the same time. I love "coffee" but I used to order "tea" most of the time as it's easier to pronounce. But nowadays however embarrassed I am, I owe myself not to compromise ...

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commentr/StutterJan 11, 2020
1 points

Totally understand I was once in your shoes. You are stronger than you know. Once you start to not give a crap about what people think, your speech will become less of an issue. I didn’t gain confiden...

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commentr/StutterJan 10, 2020
2 points

Yes!\* \*If you want to. I am currently looking for work and for me it is something I do, usually. When they ask me to tell them about myself, I usually start with 'I do have a slight stutter, so whe...

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commentr/StutterJan 10, 2020
2 points

Thank you! I used to struggle with telling people about my stutter out of fear of judgement. Speech therapy helped me with that. My therapist told me that I should never apologise for having a stutter...

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commentr/StutterJan 10, 2020
11 points

I've used this approach personally and there's a relief that it's out in the open. Once, it was actually a bonus - I was interviewing with a partner at the local accounting firm and the guy was real...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
1 points

I don’t think this counts, but I go by a nickname that I have been called since childhood. I hate saying my legal name but I’m getting better at it. Somehow however I do sometimes stutter my nickname ...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
1 points

I thought about this a long time ago! I stutter on a few specific letters (mainly L which is what my name starts with) and people ask me all the time if I forgot my name. I know it can be frustrating,...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
30 points

Fuck that dude. I’ve gotten to the point in life where I don’t care anymore, so if someone calls out my stutter in a negative way, ESPECIALLY at work, I just say “yeah I have a speech impediment, it a...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
1 points

Same, still, to this day. Am nearly completely fluent but for that... It's the one consistent sticking point for me too, for nearly 40 years. And it comes at the start of interactions so there really ...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
2 points

I used to use a few tricks like saying ‘my-name-is’ before my name to get into the flow of talking before then saying my name. I’m in few situations now where I have to give my name but when I do it’...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
4 points

It’s certainly an idea but the new name may then become a problem word. I guess a name is a problem word (for me anyway) as it’s not a word that can be substituted. It gets better with older age and...

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commentr/StutterJan 9, 2020
1 points

i still have my days where i get so in the dumps but on most days i really keep it fresh on my mind how my stutter filters out alot of fake ppl from my life. People that love you. theyll listen and mo...

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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2020
2 points

i was just writing on another post that i just did a ted talk on stuttering at my job! i would practice a lot so you nailed down the core of your talk and maybe practice in front of other folks as wel...

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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2020
2 points

the company i work for put emphasis this past year on "diversity and inclusion" and they asked if anyone in the dept wanted to give a ted talk on the subject, so i took the bait with another colleague...

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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2020
1 points

This! Not giving a shit could really help me greatly too. I have to try this "Fuck it"-attitude too and be my own self without trying to get around words and trying to hide my stuttering...

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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2020
5 points

Excellent essay. Not surprised at all that you got into Duke. Also, I loved your narrative of acceptance and awareness over "fluency". Many PWS and those around them are so focused on a cure and getti...

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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2020
1 points

That’s it exactly. Even here, on this thread, one poster (the person means well) said that I need to face my fear. To me, this is rude and pretentious (no offense intended). Why do I suddenly need som...

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commentr/StutterJan 7, 2020
11 points

Great essay, I love it! I gave a TED talk about stuttering recently at my company with similar elements, it was a freeing experience...

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commentr/StutterJan 7, 2020
1 points

1.) Go to the job interview for the nursery. Stutter or no stutter, everyone has to sort of like what they do for work. Also, for some reason, stuttering isn't so bad around kids. 2.) Try lowering yo...

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commentr/StutterJan 6, 2020
2 points

Hi! I’m starting a podcast myself and both are things I’ve thought about. I’ve found that when you talk about something your interested in, a more relaxed and confident side of your personality comes ...

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Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride