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commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
9 points

I’ve had the occasional blow up on people. I’ve also had the shut downs where I just stop talking - this one happens more often than not. More recently, my girlfriend and I were at Cracker Barrel and...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Frustration & AngerHelplessness & AgencyBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
11 points

Yes she did deserve it, I usually don't get mad like that just cause I know the harm I can cause. I don't like to say shit so mean that it makes the person literally start crying. There is a part of m...

Emotional Experience
Frustration & AngerHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
1 points

The presentation was split and I had only one slide. I prepared a text to read from and I was trying to prepare by only reading before the presentation and when I tried to explain by only remembering ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
1 points

That's interesting . I was the same at school when reading. But when alone never stuttered. I thing the problem with me is mostly low self esteem and feeling worthless, fear of failure in front of ot...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
1 points

I think you are right there. Confidence, life goals in motion, on the right track, this helps so much with stress. I made a video about it that I just posted on here but my best advice is not to eve...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

I understand all what is being said. I was approved by Veterans Affairs to get the Speech Easy device. The deal was is they paid for the device, and I would pay for the monthly insurance fee or what e...

Therapy & ProfessionalIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Assistive DevicesTherapy ExperiencesMedicalization / Neurodiversity+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

You do realize that all the suffering and pain you were in was your own doing correct? It wasn't the lady, it wasn't your friends or lack of friends in that moment. It was your absolute own doing. ...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Helplessness & AgencyMindset shift
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

I absolutely does. If you let it. If you only focus on the stuttering being _there_, you're powerless. But you should focus instead of the things you _do_. You do things _regardless_ of your stutter....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Helplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
1 points

You know what also robs you of your agency? Stuttering. Sorry I’m kind of a curmudgeon today. I know you’re trying to help though. Thank you!...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Helplessness & AgencyBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

Right, and that's a terrible outlook to have. _"The only thing that will make everything good is if this thing goes away entirely, maybe some time in the future."_ It completely robs you of ageny in...

Emotional Experience
Helplessness & AgencyHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
6 points

You're not _at all_ responsible for this! Stutter is not something we do to ourselves. It's something that comes about. It's never your fault! - I'll repeat the above: Go see a speech therapist! And...

Emotional ExperienceTherapy & Professional
Helplessness & AgencySeeking Therapy
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
1 points

I believe I am the most reponsible for this. And thats why I'm used to express like that. But I have never gone to any kind of therapy since the first and only when I was a kid and they told me that I...

Emotional ExperienceTherapy & Professional
Helplessness & AgencyTherapy Experiences
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
6 points

>when I grew up 8-9 years old **I let my stuttering to grow** Wait, are you saying it was your fault? That's not right! - It doesn't sound like you're doing too good. Perhaps you should try spee...

Emotional ExperienceTherapy & Professional
Helplessness & AgencySeeking Therapy
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

I would probably go back to school (10 years old) and go on from there. But this doesn't make sense because 10 years old me wouldn't have my experience. I will not lie - I have thought about this ...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftHelplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

Stop doing all of this to yourself. You don't deserve this ! Really NOONE DESERVES things like that. But most of us - stutterers we do this to ourselves. It is a fact that whatever someone is doing to...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

The thing is I don’t fight it at all, It just happens and takes control whenever it wants. I actually do a lot of social things too so I’m constantly exposing it. It really isn’t me who’s the problem...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 26, 2020
2 points

This has really hit me, we really are the same. Sadly fate isnt on our side. Why does such bullshit always happen. Why is it always the things that we love to do? Why do they backfire? I feel you so m...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & AgencyQuality of Life
commentr/StutterDec 24, 2020
2 points

you know what? You are me and I am you. I feel as if communication is my natural talent, something that comes natural to me but as fate would have it, my stuttering worsens when I go out there and try...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 22, 2020
7 points

Just wanted to say the feelings you’ve expressed and situations you’ve described are very similar to mine during these times because I’m in the same boat. Studying online negatively affected my stutte...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & Monitoring+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 22, 2020
2 points

I go through this like every 6mths. I feel like nobody understands what we go through with this condition and it really fks me off that fluent speakers just don’t fkn get it. But yeah like others said...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Frustration & AngerHelplessness & AgencyStigma & Bullying