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commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
7 points

Because humans come in a huge range of variety, and a lot of the time those differences aren't actually problematic in themselves. The problem is society's expectation that everyone will look and soun...

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commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
-9 points

Sorry but I’m on the restaurant’s side here. If your stuttering is causing a problem what’s so wrong with the restaurant trying to give you a job that requires less communication? The pay cut def suck...

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commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
2 points

No, I lack personality, and it helps me make jokes and bond with people who want to make fun of it so I don’t think I would. It wouldn’t be worth the one girl I’ll ever talk to easier to talk to...

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commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
6 points

Honestly yeah I would. I often watch videos of YouTubers playing games with their friends, and they're always making quips and the conversation just flows between them so well, makes me wish I could t...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
8 points

I understand you 100% but I just feel that I’ve missed out on so many opportunities that I could’ve done whether if it was with friends or school. I’m only 17 and I feel like I missed out on a life ti...

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commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
7 points

Same boat, I’m 22yrs old now and have been stuttering since 8 due to a stroke. Growing up going from fluent to becoming bullied in elementary school all the way to high school even out of high school ...

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commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
8 points

This has reminded me of when I was in the swimming team in my teens. One time, before we got in, the instructor asked for a volunteer to help her with something. I was a teacher's pet so I would have ...

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commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
0 points

In highschool I would fake my stutter a little to pad out presentations cause no teacher would mark you down for having a stutter. My friends in the class were aware and found it hilarious EDIT: OK I...

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commentr/StutterOct 16, 2018
19 points

The expanded vocabulary I developed as a coping mechanism has helped me a lot as a journalist (although it also meant I was petrified to do interviews for the longest time). Most any time I feel I’m g...

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commentr/StutterOct 16, 2018
9 points

I haven't get that lucky in those escenarios, For me as a benefit it helps to identify people how are assholes and people that could be good friend, at least in high school, helping getting a solid fr...

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commentr/StutterOct 16, 2018
1 points

The best way to "practice" talk to strangers is talking about casual stuff with any taxi driver while on board. They are always up to a conversation. ...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
7 points

Definitely. It was always super tough for me to figure out what to do work-wise, I always wanted to just do a desk job where I wouldn’t have to talk. I never really had a plan though and so when I was...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
2 points

>when I'm with people I think of so many things to say but I don't open my mouth to say them and it's so depressing. Stutterers tend to have this thing where we feel like non-stutterers are just s...

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postr/StutterOct 15, 2018
18 points

Wanting to join a conversation but can’t

Wanting to join a conversation but can’t It really sucks when you want to join a conversation but you mentally and physically can’t. I have the words in my head and I know exactly what I want to say b...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
1 points

I have the same problem. In normal conversation I know the words i want to say but i just cant say it. It feels like my diaphragm freezes and I'm not breathing. I use a lot of filler words like uh or ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringBlocks & Stoppages
postr/StutterOct 15, 2018
10 points

[Help, Advice] My view on my stutter is so strongly negative, I'm an extrovert and want to talk so much but it's like my own stutter pushes me back every time I'm with people

[Help, Advice] My view on my stutter is so strongly negative, I'm an extrovert and want to talk so much but it's like my own stutter pushes me back every time I'm with people All my life I have seen m...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
6 points

i just tell people i don't have a mic. i can listen just fine, that usually works without a problem. ...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
1 points

I met my girlfriend back in high school as well and she’s the love of my life, I had to make a choice. Go up and talk to her and maybe be embarrassed or live forever thinking about what if I had talke...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
1 points

Personally what I did was to mostly chat through messages, but I know that is not ideal, especially for a relationship. ...

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commentr/StutterOct 14, 2018
3 points

Yeah, it's not really a solvable conundrum. Unless we're able to drum up a quick explanation, but that's not exactly reliable, since we might stutter on that as well. I used to hate being on the phon...

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