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commentr/StutterMar 9, 2024
5 points

The longer I stutter the more I think that it is a mix of lack of confidence and too many bad habits. The chimp paradox is a book that talks about the conscious, subconscious and autopilot. I think ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception
postr/StutterMar 9, 2024
10 points

Started stuttering in mid 30s

Started stuttering in mid 30s I grew up hearing about how my father had a stutter when he was young, but I've never had any speech difficulties that I know of, besides that I didn't start talking unti...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/Flight+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2024
1 points

Because they're anticipating your order, and you're pressured to either say it or freeze up. Unlike a spontaneous longer form conversation....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnticipating StutteringAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2024
6 points

At a time when my stammer was severe, I had very fluent conversations with a deaf colleague. She relied on lipreading so if I spoke with my face contorting the way it did she wouldn't be able to under...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Fluency TechniquesAvoidance & SubstitutionPhysical Tension
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2024
8 points

This is because we hold ourselves back when around others. When we are on our own we don’t do this. Dm me...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Hiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2024
2 points

I was in a similar situation until I realized that no one cared if I stuttered or not. Have you tried counting from 1 to 10 and then repeating that sequence over and over when speaking? I started doin...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Fluency TechniquesAvoidance & SubstitutionSeverity & Fluctuation
postr/StutterMar 9, 2024
19 points

Slowly giving up

Slowly giving up Im 16 right now and i really cant see myself keep living past 18 if everyday is like this I feel like an embarassment to my family everytime i open my mouth,my stutter became worser ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2024
2 points

It didn't do much for my actual stutter one way or the other but it did help me get rid of some of the physical manifestations of it like head jerking and eye rolling....

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & Avoidance
Physical TensionAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
5 points

Something that helped me was being spontaneous and funny, even though my personality was the opposite of that. I started creating an alter ego that would be exactly what I described above, I started ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterMar 8, 2024
9 points

Working as a receptionist with a stutter

Working as a receptionist with a stutter Note: I don't work in reception full time, I'm admin, but I cover reception when the receptionist is on lunch, is off or has appointments. I've had a lot of ex...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

Thanks for the tips! Yeah talking slow definitely helps a lot, though sometimes I feel like I use speaking fast as a mechanism to blend a word that I know I’m gonna stutter on into another. That’s so ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

The way I looked at it was I need to get a job that is going to force me to talk. My first three jobs before required as little human interaction as possible. Stocker at grocery stores, things like th...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
2 points

yes, this is exactly my experience too. same with being quiet for a long time, it feels like my speech flows better first thing in the morning. had a date with a girl at a somewhat loud restaurant las...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/stutteringMar 8, 2024
1 points

Suffered with a stutter for years and had to do many presentations. Best thing I found, is not to read from a script or keep any of your points word for word. Almost do it off the cuff so you can stee...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

An accountant would be a great (and high paying) job. I’m a group insurance underwriter and it’s fairly stuttering friendly, as you basically never talk to strangers, only internal employees, and most...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & CareerQuality of Life
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

You can do any job is not true I had to train myself to use the phone and now I’m ok have my good days and bad days if I was you I’d start in retail...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilitySchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionSeverity & FluctuationEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

I don't disagree. If you are happy with a job where you don't have to talk much, by all means go for it! But if you are only doing something because you stutter and you don't think you're able to do w...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

I used to do this at a pizza place in college. After a while I had a script for anything that came up. Good idea....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

That was me for the first few weeks at this job, but eventually I figured out that if I stick to a script for certain common calls that we get, I'm fine....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
7 points

There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with settling for a basic job, most people do! The primary difference for a stutterer is that we come pre-equipped with an excuse to settle, whereas other people ha...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more