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commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2021
2 points

It's crazy that you just posted this; I just told myself that I would never feel ashamed of my speech again. I mean, it really isn't our faults. In my case, it's something I've had since I could strin...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2021
11 points

Hi there, let me first say that I'm sorry that you feel this way. I read your story and everything is SO recognizable. I'm 45 years old. I tried controlling it for 45 years but I just can't. I've go...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency+3 more
commentr/StutterFeb 24, 2021
7 points

I'm 32 now, and I didn't really talk about it throughout all of middle and high school. I was active in class and decently social. College is when it became a major complex as I began to be made fun o...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 23, 2021
2 points

Ah, I see. You think that because you don't stutter by yourself or with your family, you must be doing something wrong when you stutter in other cases. We don't know exactly how stuttering works yet,...

Identity & DisabilityTherapy & ProfessionalEmotional Experience
Medicalization / NeurodiversitySeeking TherapyAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 23, 2021
2 points

I always think about the audience , fear of embarrassment, humiliation etc. My stuttering comes whenever I think about all these, rest of the time talking to myself or to my family ,I don't stutter a...

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentShame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 22, 2021
2 points

Thank you so much for your kind words. I relate to what you said I feel bad and weak when I hide away from challenges. One of my teachers knows about my stutter because in the first day of school the...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 20, 2021
2 points

That’s so true. It’s like the punchline of a joke, another common stutter scenario....

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Shame & EmbarrassmentFeared Words & Names
commentr/StutterFeb 20, 2021
3 points

Same 100%, I find myself avoiding introducing myself to people so I come across as really standoffish and a lot of my friends now said they thought I was really rude when I first met them. In my first...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterFeb 20, 2021
12 points

For me it’s my last name.. cause it starts with au.. It’s very embarrassing sometimes to not be able to say your own name...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterFeb 20, 2021
2 points

Same here man. I have a block almost every time that I say my name and have always wished that I had a name that had a softer start. One of the most embarrassing blocks I've ever had was when I went t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesShame & EmbarrassmentExperiential Association
postr/StutterFeb 19, 2021
6 points

I get annoyed when people without fluency disorders say they stutter

I get annoyed when people without fluency disorders say they stutter I was put in speech therapy at 18 months old for mixed SSD (articulation disorder + phonological delay) and fluency disorder (stutt...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingShame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & Anger+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2021
2 points

My school life was a total disaster. I still suffer from those bad experiences. It's really mean of people to not understand our capabilities. Judging our talents based on the difficulties we endure i...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & BullyingSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2021
2 points

Yeah, it has been like that throughout my teenage and now in my twenties. There were so many occasions and opportunities for me to speak and enjoy my school life but I couldn't speak up and was ostrac...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentStigma & Bullying+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2021
6 points

I really love what the other two commenters have said. But yes, I feel the same as you. I often respond to younger stutterers who post on this subreddit looking for guidance, support etc and I feel li...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2021
16 points

I can logically say my stutter is just a part of who I am, but it's much harder to reduce the emotional toll and pain associated with it. As I grow older and understand more about stuttering, I become...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2021
1 points

yeah i got so good at finding synonyms in a split second. but then introducing myself and saying my name always gets me cause i can’t change my name mid sentence lol...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Frustration & AngerDisclosure & Telling OthersShame & Embarrassment
postr/StutterFeb 13, 2021
70 points

The hardest part about stuttering to me...

The hardest part about stuttering to me... Is even though as a grown adult I have managed to reduce the associated shame over time and logically can understand that it's not something that makes me so...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Identity & Self-PerceptionAnxiety & Social JudgmentShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2021
2 points

Having worked in customer service, I think the hardest part was feeling like I was inconveniencing people who had to listen to me stutter. At some point I decided that what I have to say is more impor...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCauses & Variability
Acceptance & PrideShame & EmbarrassmentStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2021
1 points

This hit me so hard. I've just had a talk with my mom about it. I'm 19 and just returned to speech therapy. They keep reminding me to implement and internalize the techniques I'm learning there becaus...

Therapy & ProfessionalEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Seeking TherapyAnxiety & Social JudgmentShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 11, 2021
1 points

I wish I had your positive attitude back then and now. I can't believe the desperate measures just to try to hide my stutter and please others. I wish I could laugh things off like you did but its eas...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking