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commentr/StutterNov 25, 2018
2 points

Try practicing in front of people such as your parents, sibling or friend. Another trick I use is to constantly remind myself to go 4 times slower than I think I should because I talk way to fast duri...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyCauses & Variability
Preparation & RehearsalFluency TechniquesRoles & Performance+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 20, 2018
1 points

I always hated this advice. If I were a woman, an African-American, a homosexual or an arm amputee, I wouldn't disclose it (and I wouldn't want to be hired (or not hired) because of this), so why woul...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 19, 2018
2 points

I don't think "fear" is the only thing that separates the scenarios, no. Again, there are many feedback loops at play there. Some of them we might not even notice. Also, when you pretend, you know yo...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 18, 2018
3 points

Pardon, but let me correct you there: "Your brain" doesn't first hear the message, and then afterwards "you" think/say something. That's a misconception. _You_ hear the message. You're the agent - th...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 18, 2018
3 points

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm curious to what you meant in regards to your writing. Do you happen to suffer from dyslexia aswell? Because I know science has pointed to a link between the two. For me, ...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Advice RequestsAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 18, 2018
6 points

Stutter varies depending on what we do. To wit: >**pretended** like I was talking to a real person (using emotion and energy while speaking) The operative word here is important. When you're _pre...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 18, 2018
1 points

I actually studied writing after I dropped out of theater school, and it's perhaps one of the things I'm better at in life. Not because I was born with any particular talent for it - But because it wa...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterNov 17, 2018
3 points

I honestly wish i could give you an answer or solution but I am in the same boat. I wanted to become a journalist when I was young but my dream was crushed when I figured out I had poor communication ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 12, 2018
2 points

Like u/bit_punk said, you need to accept your stutter before you can do any of that. And once you do accept it, you can do any of that (while stuttering). People only care if you care. I know it's muc...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 10, 2018
2 points

Haha, I completely agree. Everyone has their own approach and attitude. For some, being upfront with their stutter is a relief and helps them relax. For others, (like us) that somehow causes more f...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 10, 2018
1 points

I dunno. My feelings sorta differ on this subject. Ive never once met another person with a full on stutter, so I sometimes sorta isolated in that way. I have a friend who doesn't have a stutter per s...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Acceptance & PrideHumor & Community ToneAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2018
1 points

Interesting perspective, I try not to identify with stuttering. E.g. I'm not a stutterer, I'm a person who sometimes stutters. I have many other positive qualities and stuttering is only a small par...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2018
2 points

I’ve done things like this to avoid embarrassment and I get so annoyed because I’ve just created another problem. I’ve pretended to forget things, let other people answer for me/order for me/make call...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 4, 2018
3 points

The fear for words is part of your stuttering behavior. You dont have another speech impediment next to it....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 2, 2018
1 points

You talk about one of the things I worry about if I ever get myself into a long term relationship, because not being able to perform my duties as a boyfriend is something that terrifies me. It's impor...

Social & RelationshipsSchool & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceEmployment & CareerHiding & Concealment+2 more
commentr/StutterNov 1, 2018
6 points

I'm not going to turn my stutter into a joke, I'm not into that. I don't mention my stutter to new people either. I let them figure it out and/or they can ask me about the way I speak, and I'll be ha...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 31, 2018
4 points

My brother "no longer stutters". That's what he tells everyone. He "cured" his stutter. He can even manage fluency in conversation. But he employs so many tricks and workarounds and loopholes that it'...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterOct 30, 2018
2 points

I usually tell people up front if I start stuttering in front of them, especially blocking. So far it doesn't feel like anyone has given me any special treatment because of it. I used to get more nerv...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 30, 2018
2 points

It makes complete and total sense my man I feel the same way. I have a small computer repair business now and I go to strangers' houses all the time and they don't even know I have stutter, that's how...

Identity & DisabilitySpeech & StutteringCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingPhysical TensionSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
2 points

That’s crazy because that happens to me too! I work in customer service (retail) and for the most part 80% of the time my speech is fluent. But friend and family it can take me 5 minutes to tell a 3 s...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingHiding & ConcealmentSituational Variability