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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2022
53 points

I have a PhD in physics and I stutter. There are two other senior professors where I work who also stutter. You learn to deal with it. People don’t mind as much as you think they do. Hang in the...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Hiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterJan 18, 2022
1 points

Nop I try to make myself forget my stuttering and i think talking to other stutterers would cause the oposite...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJan 17, 2022
2 points

Thanks man. It was excruciatingly awkward initially, but helped me overcome the embarrassment of speaking to strangers. Would definitely recommend it....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJan 17, 2022
10 points

Pretty much overcame my stutter by doing something similar. Got a job as a barman in my early twenties, whereby I had to communicate constantly. These days most people don’t believe me when I tell th...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Hiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJan 17, 2022
1 points

I am talking with a professional. Personally, I think communication is what separates men (and people in general) and I've found that the best communicators rise to the top while lesser communicator...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyTherapy & Professional
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 17, 2022
2 points

Honestly don’t know what to say, you should just talk with a friend or a professional. In regards to male social hierarchies, mentality is what separates men. I’m 24, struggled with extreme stutteri...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
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commentr/StutterJan 16, 2022
28 points

Martin, I am so sorry you are going through that and all I can add is that I was in your shoes. My school life from grade 1 to 12 was literally hell. This is my 2 cents: I practice mindful meditat...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Anticipating StutteringFeared Words & NamesAvoidance & Substitution+3 more
commentr/StutterJan 16, 2022
5 points

damn i could relate to this hard. i'm 19, a year older than you, and my stutter seems to hold me down as well. I don't like participating in my classes at all due to the fear of me stuttering and gett...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterJan 15, 2022
3 points

I used to think this way, I'm moderate to severe overt and I figured people could figure it out themselves. It's honestly shocking how many people don't. It's sitiational for me. Casual interactions...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
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commentr/StutterJan 15, 2022
1 points

I would say just working on my self-esteem and positive reinforcement from other people. I also went to therapy for a while where I talked about my feelings about stuttering, shame, social anxiety e...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterJan 15, 2022
2 points

Currently work for an energy company. I found it scary as fuck at first and nearly quit but that motivated me to do well. I find ways around my speech, and even after nearly 6 years I still have hiccu...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Hiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJan 15, 2022
1 points

Do it! And the sooner in the conversation/meeting, the better. When I was younger I found myself always being afraid (and by afraid I mean often terrified) of what Other People would think about me if...

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Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shiftAnxiety & Social Judgment+2 more
commentr/StutterJan 15, 2022
1 points

This was one of my "scariest" challenges I've ever done. (Ps. This was pre-c0v1d) Funny enough, it was one of the most pivotal challenges I've done that helped me in my speech journey. Holding th...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentSituational VariabilityMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterJan 14, 2022
2 points

I'm a teacher and I stutter. I'm in my 3rd year teaching and about 2 years ago, started speech therapy and letting myself stutter more openly but I still hide it too. For interview advice, do what'...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterJan 14, 2022
1 points

I block more myself; I’m sure 37 and have stuttered my whole life but have only recently been able to properly admit it to myself and get some help. My advice is to try and be open and speak about it ...

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Blocks & StoppagesHiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJan 14, 2022
14 points

The root of your anxiety seems to be focused on hiding your stutter. If you don’t have to hide it, it will relieve your anxiety! I think being up front about it will be beneficial for you...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJan 13, 2022
2 points

The problem is that you can't hide it forever. If we could hide it, I'd be hiding it... lol It's just best to be upfront with it. The more comfortable you are with her knowing that you have the affli...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJan 13, 2022
2 points

Well, here's my story. Maybe this will help you. I've stuttered my whole life, yet only a handful of people knew because I hid it very well. I'd change words, play dumb, use swear words instead of ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentEmployment & CareerHope & Motivation+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 13, 2022
1 points

Same actually! Do you know why that is for you? I think that for me, I was laughed at for having a stutter so I trained myself to not stutter in public....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJan 12, 2022
1 points

I never disclose it so I don’t know if that would play against me. Also I’m not into software development but more like network/ infrastructure and security...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Hiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career