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postr/StutterMar 22, 2020
90 points

I found a hack!!

I found a hack!! Hello my dear fellow stutterers, I'm 25F and I stutter since I'm 7 or 8. My stutter goes from mild to somewhat severe, and since I got home back from abroad and started speaking in my...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Fluency TechniquesVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2020
0 points

Why worry so much about your stutter? Just work on it by yourself and look up ways to get better. If it doesn’t work, find different ways. I don’t think you should waste money on trying to have other ...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Authenticity vs. MaskingAdvice Requests
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2020
1 points

What books? Techniques often teach unnatural ways of speaking in an effort to control speech. That reinforces the idea that stuttering is bad and is something to control. It also reinforces the false ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2020
3 points

Hey i honestly believe this is good for you, basically speaking your mind. Doesn't matter that you sometimes repeat your words. I say keep it coming. I recently read that bottling up things can actual...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Authenticity vs. MaskingPersonal Stories
postr/StutterMar 18, 2020
8 points

Grunts and moans are actually a very effective communication tool

Grunts and moans are actually a very effective communication tool From my observation, there are two types of speakers in this world. The first are people who try to speak **perfectly** and the second...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 15, 2020
2 points

Higher Ed IT. Started as a level 1 helpdesk technician, and now I lead the team and work directly with the board, president, provost, etc. I've always made light of my stutter, whether describing it...

School & WorkCommunity & SupportIdentity & Disability
Employment & CareerHumor & Community ToneAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 14, 2020
6 points

To be answer directly, I would certainly say it is not severe, but I’m not sure I would say my fluency issues are minor. It comes and goes and is very situational. Stressful situations are unsurpris...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 13, 2020
2 points

Agreed. I also think that just knowing that you have fluency under your belt can do a great deal in eliminating your anxiety. In situational anxiety, you still have to function and talk to people desp...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 13, 2020
2 points

Point of note: Communication is never about delivering that perfect line "inside" to the "outside". Communication is *performance*, and it's a living thing each and every time. So don't worry about d...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Propositionality & WeightAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2020
1 points

I really like this para: > As for methodologies: Different things work at different times. Fluency for me is like a language, the greater my vocabulary, the more command and control I have of com...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2020
3 points

i dont know what kind of stutter you have, but for me - and for you, as you've mentioned - the more 'against the grain' i'm pushing, the more gridlock i face. it's hard to have a concrete discussion o...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingPreparation & Rehearsal
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2020
5 points

1. Speaking on the fly, as someone else said. And not being able to fully express myself. A third thing would be the stuff that comes with stutter in most cases, like anxiety, depression. 2. If we’r...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingStress & Fight/Flight+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2020
6 points

1. My biggest issue is I would just really like to fully express myself without worrying about my stutter. 2. And although I agree I would like for it to never exist anymore, realistically I just wa...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCommunity & Support
Authenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social JudgmentValidation & Empathy
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2020
2 points

I watched it with my parents like 9 years ago (I was 11), actually thought it was pretty cool to see a movie where the main topic is something I am gonna live with my whole life. Wanted to watch it ag...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Personal StoriesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2020
1 points

>and be sure to stare at people when talking oh god, please don't stare :D a calm, friendly, focused look is what you're going for. yeah, I mean obviously that's not as simple as it may sound bec...

Therapy & ProfessionalIdentity & Disability
Seeking TherapyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
1 points

I'm glad if I can help a little. Well like I said, by far the most important part is how you carry yourself. There's no single recipe for how to be likeable, but in general, those are things you could...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
1 points

You seem kind of young to me. Those are all things that you will get used to over time. I don't know you or the other people in the group, so I can't really say. The point is that you don't have to ma...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
0 points

I have met close to a 100 women from tinder and ended having sex with about 70 of them. And it’s not just always about sex, there have been many girls who could pick any guy they want, and they are st...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
16 points

I tried watching it but i couldnt finish it bc it felt horrible seeing myself in that light. Like, incredibly too real in a way that made me feel super self conscious. I felt better watching It (2017/...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
2 points

Thats great. If she stays true to her words then you have nothing to fear! :) Just stutter on and joke abit about it, dont show that it is a disability for you, that might scare her. My experience is ...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking