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postr/StutterJul 26, 2022
4 points

Moving past embarrassment and mental blocks?

Moving past embarrassment and mental blocks? So for context, I have a block stutter and it just shows up whenever it wants, but I mostly stutter in nervous situations or when I think that I’m gonna st...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Feared Words & NamesOverthinking & MonitoringShame & Embarrassment+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 26, 2022
4 points

I usually read out loud, but the truth is that cause i'm lazy it's been a while, even months that I don't do it regularly. Usually my stutter is mild, but days that want to create a good impression us...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionAcceptance & PrideShame & Embarrassment+1 more
postr/StutterJul 25, 2022
10 points

today I met some of my brother's friends and I feel bad at the end of the day

today I met some of my brother's friends and I feel bad at the end of the day Because I really wanted to create a good first impression, they are cool, they are nice people and interesting, and I real...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency+2 more
commentr/StutterJul 25, 2022
2 points

I’m with you. I never tell people I stutter and I think it’s generally a bad idea to do so. Immediately when a person hears you have a speech disability, you are “mapped” in their brain as inferior. C...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling OthersShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJul 25, 2022
2 points

Between my stutter, shyness and being overweight, I'm not sure what people dislike me more for. In most work/social/school settings I got the sense that I was "tolerated" by others. On occasion my stu...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
postr/StutterJul 25, 2022
6 points

Worse than bad

Worse than bad I was today on a meeting with friends. Sun, vacation vibe, playing, and a lots of talking. And my speech was worse than bad. I stuttered near EVERY. FU**ING. WORD. That was horrible. Ev...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerBlocks & Stoppages+1 more
postr/StutterJul 25, 2022
52 points

im a stutter and my life is fucking hard and i will write everything about me because i never shared this with anybody

im a stutter and my life is fucking hard and i will write everything about me because i never shared this with anybody im a stutter from born, i always hated to go out and play with other kids but my ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesExperiential AssociationTrauma & Psychological+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
8 points

Omg lmao why can’t stuttering be beautiful? Hmm, maybe because I can’t even explain anything the way I want to? I have to use replacement words to save face. How is it beautiful to not be able to expr...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Shame & EmbarrassmentAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
6 points

Yeah I too have always found that annoying. I wanna say “yeah it’s cute, but you wouldn’t trade places with me”....

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
2 points

I was in same situation as you are now. I have stutter my whole life. I have a problem that i want to treat it, i had some moments when i self motivated my self but now while i want to practice, somet...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I already do accept "weird" people. Hence why I used quotation marks. If someone treats me with respect, I will reciprocate it My problem is that society groups us in the same group as someone who do...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I think its disappointing how we have to compensate - for instance I am relatively good looking, witty, intelligent, and take care of myself (dress well and workout) and I can only seem to befriend th...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I do love myself. I know what my strengths are and I appreciate myself for my individual qualities. The problem is that it doesn't change how difficult it is for me to connect with people socially, a...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionFriendships & Belonging
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
3 points

Appreciate the honesty in this comment. Sometimes it feels a little patronising/gaslighting when people tell you to just be yourself or that its what you say that matters, not how you say it, because...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
6 points

It feels kind of infantilizing. It’s probably a well intended compliment but that doesn’t mean you have to like it...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I totally understand what your saying, and your right we have to hold on to all the good feelings and memories as we get enough bad already. But OP obviously didn't enjoy the compliment, it didn't gi...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
3 points

Ya, ppl laugh and imitate and told me that my stutter is really cute. Offensive af....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
2 points

I have a stutter and feel dumb. Can I join?...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
3 points

I always try to take things in the spirit they were given and not hold it against people but I do clarify that I don't like something that has been one of the greatests burdens on my life being trivi...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
21 points

I’m about the biggest negative nancy you’ll find in this group, but that is one thing I never minded. Like you said, stuttering has held you back from basically everything in your life. Trust me, I f...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more