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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2020
1 points

When I started my current job 4 years ago, my stutter got so much worse than it was previously. It was such a source of stress and negatively impacted my personal life as well. I didn’t know if I woul...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2020
5 points

You’ve got this. I struggled with presenting for so, so long. This past year I had the opportunity to teach in college as a TA. The first session I ever had to teach was absolutely TERRIFYING. Id st...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 21, 2020
1 points

I mean, both points just seem to make life harder on you, you know? I figure it's hard enough to begin with, so maybe just run with the stutter as is, and see if that makes things better. Definitely ...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2020
5 points

Welcome! - Two things stand out to me: >I act like my stutter doesn’t annoy me with others, and play it off as nothing Don't do that. Don't "lie". It's unhealthy in the long run, I think. :) -...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2020
3 points

Definitely this. I know it’s hard to do because it’s not something you like about yourself. It’s incredibly hard. But for me it’s brought a little peace. The right people will see you and love you for...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2020
1 points

I don’t know your age but when I was growing up I let my stutter control my life! I never made good friends because I was that quite kid who skipped school 90% of the time. Once I got out of high scho...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2020
2 points

Dude start calling people out on their shit. If you keep all this anger built up it’s only gonna make it worse. I stutter too but I’ve learned when people try to take advantage of me for it, don’t let...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Frustration & AngerAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2020
1 points

> prep, the topics will comes naturally to you because you're in a flowing state. You don't need to think about the lines, the lines will come naturally to you be default. Maybe not the exact same ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2020
1 points

Thats actually a really great question, I've gone through something very similar, I think this will resonate with your situation. So yes, "over preparing" to you right now means to analyze what you ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2020
2 points

Your post hits close to home- this week I had to do a small presentation for a team meeting. I had prepared and practiced well but when the time came for me to speak, I froze up and I stuttered on eve...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2020
2 points

It's okay , my friend. I know you've done your best and sacrificed so many things to fight your struggles and to get to where you are today , not only that but to get the job you want . If you're ha...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2020
3 points

I really agree with this post. Learning to focus on expressing yourself rather than focusing on your speech is very hard to do. At least it has been for me. However I really believe this to be the key...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2020
3 points

I’ve had the same contemplations (also an auditor in public accounting). I remember when I first came on as an intern I told my senior “I am enjoying my job but ideally I would end up working somewher...

School & WorkIdentity & Disability
Employment & CareerAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2020
5 points

I’ve had various moments like this during life, and what helps the most is re-examining my limiting beliefs and intentions. Do you believe people will think less of you if you stutter? Is your intent...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2020
3 points

There have been threads on here about people going to similar things. The big thing to remember is stuttering is not a death sentence or the end of who you are. If you stutter, you're still you, just ...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterDec 16, 2020
116 points

Vent

Vent Stuttering sucks. When you want to tell a joke, you stutter at the punchline. You want to take a part in conversation: you end up staying silent. You have an idea to share in class: the person si...

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2020
5 points

I did McGuire over 20 years ago, just before Anne Blight had a disagreement with Dave McGuire and went off to form Starfish. The main focus is taking large breaths, like you do when exercising or sin...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesPreparation & RehearsalExperiential Association+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2020
1 points

Really really appreciate this!! I really resonate with the last part too, I get that completely, I’m super light hearted about my stutter and I think that’s why people sometimes don’t realise it’s a s...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2020
2 points

Hello! Thanks for sharing. So there was one boy that liked me and i kind of liked him too. Even though i knew he knew i stuttered , once we were talking and i said yeah u know i have stutter and i sta...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2020
3 points

Don't hide your stutter.. Just try to lessen the stutter.. The more you u hide the more severe it gets Im too a final year medical student who struggles in my oral and attandence.. But I did accept I...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking