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commentr/StutterAug 19, 2023
12 points

I am a woman and I feel the same way about it. I don't know how others perceive me though....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Hiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
2 points

You mentioned that self esteem is a contributing factor for him. How familiar is he with the concept of openly stuttering? It’s more a mindset than a strategy, and I have to admit that I’ve only suppo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
3 points

Thank you for responding and sharing your story! My husband was genuinely concerned about becoming a father and feeling like a failure due to his stuttering, which made him doubt his capabilities (ju...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/FlightTrauma & Psychological+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
1 points

This is really hard to explain in brief but I’ll try to be as concise as possible: The most common kinds of therapy (fluency shaping) teach you ways to MANAGE your stutter so it’s almost hidden. That...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
8 points

Hey! So sorry to hear about your situation. I'm a father of an almost 1 year old myself. Stuttering since age 6. Could it be that your husband's low self esteem has grown since the arrival of the...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social Judgment+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 17, 2023
2 points

Great reply! It wasn’t until I started working on fear and the mental aspect that I really saw significant improvement in my stutter. My therapist used to say “pretend you’re reading aloud in a roo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/FlightMindset shift+3 more
postr/StutterAug 17, 2023
16 points

How do I make friends as someone who stutters?

How do I make friends as someone who stutters? Anytime I’m in a talking situation, I block constantly, or I get so nervous I can’t breathe and it feels like I might pass out. And the looks. You know w...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentLoneliness & IsolationHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 17, 2023
2 points

Thanks for the reply! Yeah my dad is a lead at this place and my brother is just a great worker, so my last name is respected. My plan if I take the job Is for it to be a new start for me and just try...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterAug 17, 2023
3 points

It really doesn’t matter I promise you. Had a stutter since I was 4 and now I’m 16, I’ve always had friends since kindergarten so I never had to worry about the friends part of a stutter, it was only ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
3 points

Thanks for the reply! I’m working on not hiding my stutter, cause when I let it be it feels so freeing. I just can’t stay ahold of that confidence and end up going back to hiding it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
2 points

I’d say take the job. Many / most jobs are given out because ‘somebody knows somebody.’ It’s largely the way the world works — relationships. Having a stutter you’re going to have to learn how to de...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkTherapy & Professional
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
3 points

Honestly, when I went to job interviews and just told them straight up I have a stutter it’s not because I’m nervous, I’ve gotten it. Confidence IS key (sometimes unfortunately). But I hope you get it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentEmployment & CareerDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
5 points

Thanks! I’m normally pretty passive and try to hide my stutter around people. But I’ve noticed that causes ore anxiety and makes it harder for me to communicate. When I get a new job I’m gonna try my ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2023
3 points

1. I read about a concept that is called "blackout" that occurs when you are about to stammer some people tend to go unconscious. You describe it pretty well youself. It´s a way of escaping or not dea...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+2 more
postr/StutterAug 14, 2023
11 points

i had the hope that by this time in my life I would have controlled my stutter

i had the hope that by this time in my life I would have controlled my stutter Sorry for my English in the first place. When I found this reddit some years ago, i think 5 or 6 years, when i was 20 y...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringSeverity & Fluctuation+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 14, 2023
4 points

Hi there….I haven’t but I do work in the area of mental health and support people with enduring mental health difficulties (who take olanzapine) I have read previously (must be 15 years ago) about o...

Meds & SubstancesAnticipation & Avoidance
Harmful Med OutcomesHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
2 points

I’ve tried it, I wouldn’t say it was a instant cure but it did help jump start my mental health in a healthy direction, that I believe has helped my speech. (I believe my stuttering has a root in self...

Meds & SubstancesEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Helpful Med OutcomesHope & MotivationHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
1 points

Stutter isn't the issue. Confidence is. As a 22 yo stutterer, you're more interesting than your stutter. It is not your defining trait. Hell most people ignore it entirely. Confidence to just talk to...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Hope & MotivationHiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
1 points

23 male here(mainly block and prolonged sounds), going to the gym constantly for over a month and noticing more muscle definition which makes me feel more confident. Note I was already semi muscular j...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Hope & MotivationHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterAug 13, 2023
6 points

Stuttering + Reserved Nature

Stuttering + Reserved Nature Im losing my mind recently. Before summer started, I did have a stutter and it limited me very briefly on certain things such as phone calls and interviews, but recently I...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & Monitoring+2 more