commentr/StutterAugust 13, 2023

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Stutter isn't the issue. Confidence is. As a 22 yo stutterer, you're more interesting than your stutter. It is not your defining trait. Hell most people ignore it entirely. Confidence to just talk to a girl is difficult for everyone, get your friends to hype you up and go for it. If someone is worth your time, they won't mind that you stutter. At most they'll ask you about it like the why, how long, etc. Answer it, move on to the interesting topics. My best advice is to hone in on the things that your friends like about you, what makes you interesting. Neat hobbies, special interests you have a deep knowledge on, interesting perspectives, and learn how to turn conversations /towards/ those topics, and the same thing for the person you're talking to. Turn the conversation towards /their/ interests in a deep, meaningful way. Move past the small talk as quick as you reasonably can and the conversation will flow and your stutter will be forgotten about. Another note, speech therapy does help, with dedication and practice. My stutter is to a point where, yes it's definitely there, but I can move past /most/ blocks and even tell one is coming soon and switch word choice. Most other comments here say as much. You're interesting, and you just need to be able to bring that out above your stutter.

Themes

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance

Subthemes

Hope & MotivationHiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & Substitution

Codes (2)

emotional_stateperceived_judgment