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commentr/StutterJul 9, 2024
8 points

I totally understand you man, there's nothing like the intense feeling of shame that comes from having to pass off the phone or resort to writing or something. But suicide really isn't the answer. T...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingQuality of Life+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 8, 2024
5 points

I can relate to this. I just hide my true self every time because whenever I do, I get excited or whatever and just stutter all over the place...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2024
1 points

Honestly, I'm still trying to figure things out. It's got to a point now where I've forced myself to not care about what others think of my stutter and as long as I'm confident when stuttering, nothin...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social Judgment+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2024
2 points

Smile, make eye contact, focus on non-verbal cues and body language. The listener will mirror your reaction to your stutter. If you appear uncomfortable, the listener will appear uncomfortable. But i...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2024
1 points

Actually like you're not bothered by your stutter, because I observed that others are not much bothered by my stutterer...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2024
4 points

I did this - it was the scariest thing - I realized I had to find a way to deal with my speech - it was a learning experience and am so proud I did this - I’m much older now and speech is better I bel...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2024
1 points

Honestly, I just don’t let it bother me. I’ve gotten to the point where it’s just how I talk and people don’t notice it anymore....

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2024
3 points

Just Don't care about your stutter and no matter how uncomfortable they look like when you start blocking just don't care about that , at first it was hard for me to do it but over time I started gett...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2024
0 points

Yes, exactly. I had a hard time during my teens and twenties because I tended to think to much about my appearance in conversations rather than actually having conversations. This in turn made me seem...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideSeverity & Fluctuation
postr/StutterJul 4, 2024
21 points

How do I have un-awkward conversations

How do I have un-awkward conversations Every single conversation i have has to be awkward obv bcs i stutter. How do i have normal conversations despite stuttering coz am done with this....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2024
8 points

Nothing. I don't want to overcome my stutter. Its wrong. I want to be ok with it. To achieve this I am trying to always think and measure my performance by how much I have spoken despite that feeling ...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 3, 2024
2 points

I’m glad it resonated. For me it was a blow to the ego, but it was also liberating. I mean, the difficulties may remain, but it made me feel less of a victim. It’s always good when you can find some a...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideHelplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 3, 2024
5 points

What got me through was actually going out, attending a social event, and talking to people. I spoke to people, I made friends, and I learnt that all the stuff I had convinced myself was true about be...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingSeverity & Fluctuation
postr/StutterJul 3, 2024
2 points

Emotions from childhood and stuttering

Emotions from childhood and stuttering Hey all, I had a few behaviour patterns in my childhood, which I think are linked to stuttering. I was really afraid of people. And not only afraid, I had a re...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & Monitoring+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 30, 2024
24 points

I know exactly what that feels like. I had many similar situations as you. The thing that frustrates me, is that having a stammer does not allow me to be myself. That it is harder to crack jokes or ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFrustration & AngerAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
postr/StutterJun 29, 2024
17 points

Sign language and stuttering

Sign language and stuttering Ever since I was a kid I was secretly obsessed with sign language with the feeling that it was my safety net. Would anyone else rather be mute and sign than stutter at all...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Situational VariabilityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 28, 2024
8 points

Fuck me if I care about employing tricks to make people enjoy talking to me. I'm the main event brav. But yes. First thing is you're already positioning yourself as needing to compensate in order to...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
postr/StutterJun 27, 2024
13 points

Talk like nobody is listening

Talk like nobody is listening Just wanted to share this tip that helps me as a stutterer. I sometimes stutter much less when I pretend/imagine I’m alone, even when I’m in a group or talking with anoth...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSituational VariabilityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 27, 2024
2 points

Stuttering feels so bad because we try to avoid stuttering at all cost, but as we’ve experienced, the more your try to resist stuttering, the worse it gets. This is a vicious cycle that you want to co...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJun 26, 2024
2 points

He just makes a lot of sense in his way. He mentions that we, as stutterers, think that anyone without one is completely fluent—no hesitation, no repetitions—but that's not true. No one is. He always ...

Causes & VariabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Neurological & BrainAnticipating StutteringAuthenticity vs. Masking