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Feel like I’m holding myself back with women

Feel like I’m holding myself back with women I’ve had a stutter since I was 5. And didn’t talk till I was 5. So I’ve been dealing with this hyper vigilance and anxiety since then. But every now and th...

You don’t think I’ll stutter in an intentional community too lol...

We're in the same boat, 26yo also. Always feel like I'm copping out though, I try not to think about that.....

There with you, able to get away with substituting words most of the time, I feel like I have a thesaurus in my head sometimes lmao. Even most of my close friends do not realize I stutter until I have...

Interesting how that works and I can see that being beneficial because now you are programming your subconscious mind to set the expectation that the person you are speaking to expects you to do bette...

That’s why I NEVER tell people about my stutter. I generally stutter less around people who don’t know I stutter. This shouldn’t be confused with the fact that we stutter less around people we know an...

Stuttering is so complex in this way. I have this deep seeded belief that I need to tell people I'm working on my speech before I can make modifications. And I KNOW deep down inside that I don't need ...

Absolutely not, I try not to worry about my speech that much because I find that obsessing over it just makes everything worse, worse speech, confidence and worse self esteem. I notice there are perio...

Well the stutter severely affected my overall being so I can't do that, but I'll try to do better thanks...

If the books/meetings helped you, that’s great! No disrespect to that community either. Just stating what I saw from my experience when I almost bought the books looking for a ‘cure’. Tons of people h...

Disassociating has got to be common for those of us with this experience. I continue to feel like an imposter in my own life especially when things go right oddly enough. Sorry you experienced this to...

Tbh I've always been too fearful to face it. I've tried in the past but always been too embarrassed and have not come a long way in beating it in my 27 years. I hope you have more courage than me....

That's cute. And it IS funny, same as it's a burden to us. There's also a difference between laughing with you and laughing at you. Does that make sense? Not sure......

I feel exactly the same.  I don't think it helped him that his campaign underplayed his disability.  I understand WHY they felt like this was the right call but clearly there weren't disability ad...

Gonna sound like general shitty dating advice but I think it's applicable here. Just be yourself, and treat your stutter like a filter. If they make fun of your stutter, then they aren't worth...

This is the way. I've been married for longer than a lot of people in this sub have probably been alive, and I used to be so covert that my husband didn't even know I stuttered for several years. Fi...

I believe in you! It’s never going to be easy for us, but I’m starting to learn that how you treat your stutter ends up being a reflection of how others treat you FOR stuttering. If you advocate for y...

There’s the catch though: if you accept stuttering, you may stutter, but it won’t come with the doubt and fear. The doubt and fear comes from frustration and self loathing due to lack of control. When...

FYI I help my comment didn’t come off as saying “it’s all in your head.” That’s not what I mean at all. Well in a sense it is *in your head* because it’s your brain and your mouth doing it :P No bu...

So you’re aware that it’s not the stutter itself that’s causing the biggest problem, it’s the panic and the focus on your stutter that’s preventing you from thinking about your answer. I think you ca...