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postr/StutterAug 5, 2023
16 points

stuttering is ruining my life.

stuttering is ruining my life. Now I wasn't always stuttering growing up. But as I got older my stuttering got really bad. It's to the point I cant hold a simple conversation/ talk on the phone. I tal...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringSeverity & Fluctuation+3 more
postr/StutterAug 5, 2023
73 points

I JUST HAD TO SAY IT.

I JUST HAD TO SAY IT. I grew up with a really bad stutter. Went to speech therapy and everything. My stutter was so bad, my jaw would lock in place sometimes, and every time I stuttered I would make t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2023
1 points

there so many people who have stuttering issue like yours everyone has there own words alphabet or sentences as i remember for me there are so many words where i get stuck it can be any word due to ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityMeds & Substances
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionSituational Variability+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2023
2 points

Sure countless times, I just kept holding off, normally with distractions. Sometimes I’d sleep a ton. Sometimes I’d indulge in movies. Sometimes in activities. It seemed once I got out of high school ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2023
10 points

Great question. And IDK if my take even applies to you. If I'm off base, pardon the following. If your stutter is directing your life, you start taking control back. One decision at a time. And it d...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
1 points

I talk about it openly which helps a lot..especially at work. Once i didn’t try to mask it, I felt more comfortable in speaking situation and my fluency became much much better. That’s just me though...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
2 points

I use my alexa for my shopping list and have had to come up with some creative ways to say items because she doesn't give me enough time to get them out. My partner was so confused the first time sh...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
1 points

Yes 😭 I used to use a different name in starbucks and would avoid meeting new people. I've had people laugh and say things like 'did you forget your name?' as they don't realise that I have a stutter...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
5 points

I still stutter. But I took a radical approach to deal with it. I put myself in speaking situations ALL the time. I volunteered to read a sermon at church. (Terrifying) Joined 2 toastmaster clubs. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+2 more
postr/StutterAug 4, 2023
10 points

Little vent sesh

Little vent sesh I have to do phones/customer service at my job an hour or two a day and it's not the whole day so usually I can get by alright, but damn this week really sucked. I was "um"-ing all ov...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+2 more
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
1 points

When I would call some of my friends on their home phone growing up if I was fearful of blocking on their name when they answered I would say “yeeeeaaah can I speak to _______”. Eventually when I cal...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
6 points

For me personally, once I stopped caring what people thought of my stutter and started showing people the real me they didn’t care. I have a good circle of friends, some recent and some built on years...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
1 points

I always heard the same thing, and I use to stutter alone, and it was very defeating hearing others did not. I feel there are two parts to stuttering, the internal and the external. I always felt when...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
7 points

I am 45 and know stuttering weighed me down the past 4 decades. Couldn't date till I was 24 and stayed away from relationships I really desired for fear I would be rejected. I'm married now to a grea...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
4 points

Thanks. Yeah I’m kinda in that cycle now. I feel I gotta just start talking to people, even if I stutter. I’ll slowly just get use to it....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
8 points

I feel that the experience between men and women are a bit different. Men are expected to be more confident and to be assertive when they talk. Stuttering (in my culture at-least) is a sign of weakn...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
3 points

In my culture, any different outside the norm is considered a defect and something to be ridiculed over. I feel that I’ve become a selective mute out of the fear of stuttering when talking. The same...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
5 points

I see my stutter as a negative 99% of the time too. I have a zero tolerance approach for people laughing at me not with me. My severity varies alot from mild to severe. It's very tied to my anxiety....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
2 points

You’re 20x more wise than another. Not prideful as we all know but it takes our true pure self to say anything. At times a true handicap at times a moment of victory. My advice is stop worrying about ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
7 points

I haven't had any issues making friends. I currently have only one really good friend but that's cause I drift away from people when I get busy so that's on me and not the stutter. Relationship wise ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception