Great question. And IDK if my take even applies to you. If I'm off base, pardon the following. If your stutter is directing your life, you start taking control back. One decision at a time. And it doesn't have to be a wholesale change. That's unreasonable. But make a commitment to yourself. Same as starting an exercise routine. "Today I will take ONE decision back from my stutter." And do that every day. You can progress to two a day. And keep improving over time. I was allowing my stutter a lot of control over my life. I had been conceding control over years. And it's not just big things. It started with the small things. Changing words to try to avoid a block. Instead of saying what I intended, I let my stutter influence the words I wanted to say. Staying silent when I had something to say. These compromises that I made with my stutter were a form of submission. I think part of the shame for me was the dishonesty of stuttering. I wasn't being myself so much as I was letting my stutter control me. Start small. The next time you recognize you're submitting to your stutter, don't. Speak when you have the urge to. Use the word you want to use. Block or no block. Spend some time reflecting on these successes. And they are successes. No matter how bad the block was, you used YOUR words. You didn't capitulate to your stutter. It's not going to be easy. So keep your efforts small at first. It takes time. It took a long time to get here. It'll take a lot of work to get away from this place.