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commentr/StutterOct 14, 2017
1 points

Hey thanks for the reply! I have been really having a rough time these days because everything I try to get involved in requires a lot of talking. I just tend to break down whenever I open up about m...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterOct 13, 2017
1 points

We all have things we want to say and share with people close to us. I think it would be a giant burden to repress that urge. As we get older we care less about what people think and the stutter beco...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterOct 13, 2017
2 points

I apologize if this is super TLDR. Don’t give up hope! Job hunting or even first meetings (like dates, first days of school ect )are definitely harder for anyone with a speech disfluency. Believe me,...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
2 points

Welcome to the Community OP! I found the best way I cope is exactly what you did, be open about your stutter - Let the person know who you are talking to that you have a speech impediment, then a norm...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
2 points

No need to apologize at all. Sharing thoughts about our situation gives me enough comfort. When you describe yourself, it's like you are describing me. After I opened up about my stuttering, I found t...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
1 points

I feel the same way. I'm sorry, but I don't have much advice to give you. I'm struggling the same way you are. I used to hate talking to people, and was very paranoid and anxious about stuttering in f...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
2 points

Thanks for the reply! Whenever I catch myself with a block, I try to stop, inhale and try to go on, but this becomes harder for me to do the less familiar I am with the person who I am talking to. I ...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
1 points

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I'm just a little ashamed to tell my boyfriend that I bombed the interview, since he works there himself and was hoping that I would get the job so we could w...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
2 points

I have dealt with this. I'm 37. I no longer stutter, but I stuttered until I was 36. Always talk at a rate that is comfortable for you. Get used it. Don't rush your speech for anyone. If she just loo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
2 points

How did the guys in your club react towards your stutter? Did you try to hide it, or did you just outright admitted that you stutter?...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 11, 2017
9 points

Father of two little girls, the oldest is 2.5 years and youngest 3 weeks. Been a stutterer my whole life. Pretty fluent these days though I do get stuck occasionally. Luckily, my oldest talks like ...

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commentr/StutterOct 7, 2017
1 points

Buddy, I went through the same shit last year, and at times I still see myself in the same vein these days. HOWEVER, I've seen a lot of personal growth from just doing things. There was a stage wh...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideAvoidance & Substitution
postr/StutterOct 7, 2017
6 points

I can allow

I can allow I can allow my experience with stuttering to consist of the positive and the negative, the more and the less. I can allow my stutter. I can allow stutter and communicate. I can allow my...

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commentr/StutterOct 7, 2017
10 points

Hell yeah! I stopped changing what I do because of my stutter a few years ago, and I've not only been happier but I feel that my speech has improved as well. ...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterOct 6, 2017
29 points

I stutter and I am

I stutter and I am I am a stutterer but will not let it silence me. I will speak. I will live. I will be me....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterOct 6, 2017
12 points

Great post, man. Completely agree. It always baffles me when stutterers are asking about taking this drug or that, anti-anxiety meds or even illegal substances, and yet if you ask them, they're not e...

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commentr/StutterOct 5, 2017
5 points

What i realized in the last 25 years of my life and the best tip i give to people who stutter or don't stutter is: Don't think for others, it's not something you can control. If you want to know how ...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterOct 4, 2017
3 points

I've been you. If you really don't want to have sex, don't. It's ok to not be ready for dirty tango, no big deal, bro. It's your body and your decision. You're young and you'll have other opportunitie...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Dating & RomanceAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 3, 2017
6 points

That's the hand we were dealt. My stuttering doesn't get worse with anxiety, but it does for a lot of people. Mine just naturally fluctuates in a seemingly random way. For me, what changed my life wa...

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Authenticity vs. MaskingVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterSep 28, 2017
1 points

I mean, there's no hard rule for these things. If it makes you feel better doing it in advance, you could do it. Or if you stutter during, you could explain it. Or you could not, and if they ask about...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking