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commentr/StutterApr 9, 2018
1 points

Same here. It can actually really lighten the mood when they're way off on trying to figure out what I'm trying to say. It can be hilarious sometimes. ...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Humor & Community ToneAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 8, 2018
4 points

I joke about it all the time, especially at work. Not so much on each stutter, but more that I do stutter. I tell people I never stuttered until I got this job, started working with them, that kind of...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 8, 2018
2 points

I can’t help but think about that Jurassic World meme..."improvise. Adapt. Overcome" Yeah it’s still there, I can feel it even on my best days, tho it’s totally coming back since two weeks ago or so....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSituational VariabilityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 8, 2018
2 points

That's great man, keep it up! Yeah, I hear ya, I, too, have this pain from stuttering -- it goes back as long as I can remember, but I think it heals with time, with the kind of stuff you are doing....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 4, 2018
4 points

It starts by allowing yourself to stutter openly. Stop the resistance....

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 4, 2018
2 points

I used to create webpages for women I liked. They were meme-like and designed to elicit a response. And in general... Don't be unattractive. Find a way to express yourself via fashion. Get clean. Mak...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 4, 2018
3 points

Stop and smile. Sounds like a terrible idea at the time but it can help defuse tension it uncertainty about your intentions. It helps make it feel more friendly for both people.. and TBH I wish I'd do...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 4, 2018
5 points

I always did much better when I was already acquainted with someone and not feeling the pressure to flirt to "make something happen." In other words, don't force it. Just get to know the person and be...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 4, 2018
3 points

My stuttering has been a rollercoaster for the last 15 years (I'm 28). Sometimes I would be perfectly fluent for several months, then I'd pause, get blocks, the letters of hard words change, from mild...

Causes & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Stress & Fight/FlightCycles & RandomnessSeverity & Fluctuation+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 30, 2018
1 points

It is! But the thing is that people don't care about your stutter nearly as much as you do. We work it up in our heads that we carry the weight of the world with us through our stutter, but others don...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentValidation & EmpathyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 29, 2018
1 points

My GOAT coping mechanism got ruined by a friend (which I know that he didn't intended to make me feel bad about it). I have a hard time explaining things to people without stuttering, especially if...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 29, 2018
2 points

I have quite the vivid memories from years ago of me stuttering publicly with people reacting weird about it, so I'm not the person to ask for help in this case. What I can say is that, you're not a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentValidation & EmpathyMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 28, 2018
6 points

Long time lurker, but I rarely post. I felt like this should be one of the few times though... Confidence is everything. I went to a college where they focused on group work, presentations, and paper...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Preparation & RehearsalMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 28, 2018
5 points

Hi there, I really hope you feel better soon. I've battled anxiety about my stutter for soooooo long. I went to college and wondered if I'd really ever find a job. Who would want someone who stutters ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentValidation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 28, 2018
7 points

That’s the way I felt at your age. Sort of the way I feel now. I’m 50. I like the way you expressed the desperation but also the sprinkling of LOLs like “Wtf why me it’s so bassackwards retarded it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentValidation & EmpathyMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 27, 2018
2 points

Highly urge you to reconsider. This is as far of an avoidance mechanism as possible! Changing your name is the same as word replacing, only you are literally losing your identity. The reason you stutt...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+2 more
commentr/StutterMar 23, 2018
4 points

Don't think about stuttering. Don't think about trying to avoid stuttering. Focus on conveying what you want to say, and don't feel bad if you do stutter. Don't let fluency be your measure of success....

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2018
1 points

> But what if we were only left with neurological component excluding every thing else such psychological reactions , word fears and associations , avoidance behaviors, secondary behaviors and tens...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterMar 20, 2018
1 points

I think we may have drifted from the original quote already. Let's look at it again: >Its our own attempt to avoid stuttering that makes everything worse See how this strikes a clear relation bet...

Identity & Disability
Medicalization / NeurodiversityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 20, 2018
1 points

There was an episode of the stutter talk podcast years ago that talked about something like this. Do you know the stuttering iceberg analogy? (much of the impact of stuttering is not observable, but i...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking