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commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
1 points

On my own.I added two more terms. 1. I press my thumb and index finger against each other. 2. I repeat a sentence to make the fear invalid and give myself positive feedback. Such as: 1. Speaking is ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
1 points

The most important advice is to BREAK THE ICE. Tell about your stutter before you meet. The best advice is to put it in your presentation. You cant hide it anyway so why hide it....

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
1 points

What kind of girl is she? If she doesn't know or still hasn't noticed, just tell her as soon as it happens. Honesty is the way and I'm sure she'll appreciate you being open with her. Being open in the...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
3 points

For some reason I don’t stutter with my (now) girlfriend It’s so weird, I honestly can’t explain. Just play it cool, don’t worry about your stutter If she knows and is accepting then don’t hold back...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 9, 2020
9 points

Take a step back and see the bigger picture. Assuming you'd stutter and make a fool out of yourself, would you consider this night a failure? For a lot people, dates can be scary. Putting yourself out...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 7, 2020
2 points

I am really grateful that (at least so far) he is completely unselfconscious about it. The boy’s talking cannot be stopped, regardless of if he’s at school, at home or wherever. I think he actually s...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 7, 2020
3 points

No, because there’s a good chance I won’t stutter and it will seem weird. Also, saying you stutter puts that in the universe and begins to define you as a PWS first and foremost. IMHO I’m so much mor...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 7, 2020
1 points

For me, i hate to bring it up myself and I can get very defensive when asked. But secretly I wish I could talk to someone about it and be open about it and talk about it. Out of all the times someon...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 6, 2020
1 points

> Careful that you don't buy into mainstream tropes too much in your self-understanding. Stuff like "inherent", "genetics", "extrovert", "introvert" and "born that way" is not really helpful. It of...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 6, 2020
2 points

Ehm. No no... Thats weird. This is prob a youth issue tho. Why would I be faking this akward speech at my work etc xD...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 6, 2020
2 points

I can relate so much. I had lots of friends in my teens, a totally different life. I like my life now aswell thanks to my kids and family. But I really dont have any friends, I seem to be to akward to...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceCauses & Variability
Hiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
1 points

The praising is part of the the therapy, we are following the Lidcombe approach as suggested by our therapist. But I understand what you're saying. I definitely don't discourage or shame him when his ...

Therapy & ProfessionalAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Positive Therapy TechniquesAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
3 points

You are definitely not wrong for feeling this way. Having a stutter is difficult, and living in a world where atypicality is misunderstood is very stressful. People that don't stutter really don't und...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career+1 more
postr/StutterMar 5, 2020
5 points

Self-consciousness - A bad habit when it's more than a small dose

Self-consciousness - A bad habit when it's more than a small dose I'm sure there are many stutterers are like me, in that we can't help but think about how people would judge our every action. Its as ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
17 points

I feel you. I start a new job this year and i know its going to be the same as in high school/ college. I had friends in high school, but i knew them for along time. Meeting new people or making new f...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentFriendships & BelongingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
1 points

From my perspective: I think you should but also say it’s completely fine — bonus points if you can make a light hearted joke out of it....

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
6 points

I'm not for this. I don't think a national awareness campaign has anything to do with anything. I don't care if people have no clue about it, it's not my business to tell them about anything. I'm livi...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
5 points

I don't mean this in an offensive way, but your sons life isn't doomed. Chances are he'll grow out of it, but if he doesn't; stutterers aren't incapable of having a normal life like it seems like you ...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionPersonal Stories
commentr/StutterMar 5, 2020
1 points

Yeah man. I would say, I have done some work over my speech mechanics and it has helped a lot. I am able to fool almost everyone that I don't stutter except in few occasions....

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 3, 2020
14 points

Yeah brother I can relate. When I don't plan a conversation and forget about stammering I speak absolutely fluent and whenever I remember that I have a stammer the blocks gets in the way so I think it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anticipating StutteringAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking