> Careful that you don't buy into mainstream tropes too much in your self-understanding. Stuff like "inherent", "genetics", "extrovert", "introvert" and "born that way" is not really helpful. It often stops people from looking further or differently at things. Instead, just try things out and see what happens. There's an effort involved in all change, so it's important to stick to it. THIS! This is so important. I have noticed that my confidence levels, motivation has taken a serious hit whenever I'm reached that point of thinking where I feel I'm just battling against genetics. Especially when I don't even know what the truth is. ​ > Instead of judging yourself through recordings, ask your friends. A recording is not the same as a social setting. This is true. However if you can produce speech on a recorder, then couldn't you reproduce that it in a social setting too? The only difference there would be the addition of people.