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commentr/StutterNov 14, 2022
2 points

I have also found that letting people know has been helping me relieve some pressure of “trying” to hide it, but it has been something that I didn’t talk about in the past. I’m 26...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersShame & EmbarrassmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterNov 14, 2022
1 points

I find I am only comfortable talking about it in times of unusually good fluency. I find in those times that I volunteer the information a lot for some reason. Maybe because I know that a bad day is c...

Social & RelationshipsCauses & Variability
Disclosure & Telling OthersSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterNov 14, 2022
1 points

My stutter is so obvious I pretty much have to mention it if I'm going to be trying to say anything extensive to anyone who isn't just a passing stranger. Otherwise between the blocks and weird faces ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & RelationshipsSpeech & Stuttering
Hiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling OthersPhysical Tension
commentr/StutterNov 14, 2022
1 points

I'm comfortable talking about it but there are far more interesting things to talk about. I rarely bring it up and of course nobody else ever does either....

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterNov 14, 2022
9 points

I'm 38 and this is my first job where I speak about it openly. My boss wanted me to speak in a call so I told him that I find that particularly hard because of my speech impediment. It's kind of a r...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterNov 14, 2022
11 points

How many of you are comfortable with talking about your stutter with friends/family?

How many of you are comfortable with talking about your stutter with friends/family? I have always been embarrassed about talking about my stutter with others in my life. I just recently tried to star...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 12, 2022
2 points

I’m thankful that my stutter has never gotten in the way of my romantic life. I’m also lesbian, so I wonder if that has anything to do with it? when I meet women I’m interested in, they could often ca...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideDating & Romance+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 12, 2022
4 points

You are sooooo close to getting it! If you switch your goal from “making them feel super bad about something they are clueless about” to realizing “oh my god, disclosing is THE thing that makes me fl...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
2 points

There's a covert stutterer in the my male count. I applied for a joband he called me to set up an interview and i heard easy onsets/light articulation and thought, hmm, this sounds familiar. When I as...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
3 points

Yep! I have trouble with most names that start with a vowel. I’ve had some success with always using a lead in like “my name is ____” or “you can put ____” or even “I’m ____”. Sometimes when orderi...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterNov 8, 2022
16 points

Hi Benny, This is super common. Your name is tough because you only use it when you’re meeting someone new, and that’s a challenging situation for people who stutter. You’re worried what they’ll think...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesDisclosure & Telling OthersAcceptance & Pride+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
3 points

Disclosing is the answer, but watch out how it's framed. The way I used to disclose my stutter to employors was to tack on a "but I'm working on it" on the end. This implies that after enough easy ons...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. MaskingHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
4 points

The worst experience I’ve had with my stutter was my required public speaking class in college, and I really wish I had disclosed it with my class during the “what’s one thing you are nervous about wi...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
2 points

You won't believe this right now, but disclosing IS the most effective way to BECOME a more fluent speaker. I've had a bunch of job interviews over the last year for being a lead preschool teacher (...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersHope & MotivationHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
5 points

Generally, disclosing your stutter is empowering because you take ownership of it instead of feeling ashamed of it. BUT, framing it as a “weakness” is still letting it win. Like any job interview qu...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
9 points

No! Because it's not a weakness. List it as a strength!!! Disclosing is great! Takes the pressure off you, which can reduce the severity of your stutter. Let's the interviewers know what's going if/...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
21 points

No, I wouldn’t do that. Instead I would start the interview by disclosing my stutter to the interviewer. This takes off a lot of pressure of your shoulders and, if you do end up stuttering, have estab...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterNov 5, 2022
5 points

Tom, about a year ago, I was in a group-style hospital recovery room and my nurse had forgotten to give me the call button. So, after I woke up, I lay behind the curtain for god knows how long, unabl...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+2 more
commentr/StutterNov 5, 2022
1 points

>just explain to someone right away that I have a speech impediment this is what I also do. If I hide my condition to someone, my blocks will eventually lead to some misunderstanding that will cos...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 4, 2022
2 points

The way to solve that is to disclose in some way (directly or by doing controlled, voluntary stuttering). As a bonus, disclosing is the thing that makes most blocks disappear. True story....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureDisclosure & Telling Others