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commentr/StutterJul 26, 2023
1 points

Trying to have a better control over my speech is not faking. Improving fluency is not faking to be fluent. My aim is not to fit in with fluent speakers, but to speak fluently. Trying to improve is di...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 26, 2023
1 points

bro, we're stutterers. Our natural state is stuttering and speaking poorly, and we always try to be fluent. that's just as "fake" as me. It's more just fitting in...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 26, 2023
2 points

Ok. Whatever makes you feel happy. If you have to fake to be a part of a group, i truly doubt if you can authentically ever feel part of that group. But again, I would be happy to be wrong and hope th...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 26, 2023
2 points

I think that voices are kind of a bimodal distribution, in that its totally possible for a female to have a deep voice, but the vast majority of female voices are higher and vice versa. It'd just be e...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterJul 26, 2023
1 points

Why do you need to use a fake voice? This is a genuine doubt. I want to understand. Do you feel a female should speak in a certain way and if you happen to speak in that way, it makes you female and...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterJul 25, 2023
1 points

I'm first language English, it's just that I don't speak "fluently" because I stutter...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 25, 2023
3 points

I think it’s better to stutter then to get caught in a lie. I don’t think anything will come from your particular story though. I did a more extreme version of this during summer camp. It was with G...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2023
23 points

I believe that accepting it it’s the first step of living freely with it. King george VI was a stammerer and was loved by a whole nation, many other influential persons were stutterers. Ever since I s...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 23, 2023
2 points

Huh? I think there’s some confusion here First of all, even fluent people are never 100 % fluent. Tim is very successful in speaking quite fluently and I consider myself fluent after using his po...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2023
2 points

Brudda that kinda opened my eyes. I forget all about confidence when I'm trying to flirt. But when I'm talking to someone I know I don't even think twice about my stutter...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2023
2 points

Stuttering does not define who you are as a person, and it should not impact how people see you in terms of romantic interest. Genuine connections and relationships are built on understanding, accepta...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Dating & RomanceAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2023
8 points

I wish I could give you a straight "do this" answer. The best I can say is just be smooth about it. Slip it into one of your online conversations naturally. Be casual about it, like it's just another ...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2023
2 points

Get them to know your personality first online, the real you that's inside, then just drop it in there, ... If they are worth getting to know then they won't mind,.. Back in my dating years there wa...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2023
4 points

I would suggest you to keep smiling wherever you talk, it eases me. And instead of concentrating on the words that come out of my mouth, i try speaking in a passionate fashion, maybe sometimes with ac...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2023
1 points

Sometimes (though I’ve never actually went through with it), I’ve considering posing as a mute/deaf person.. though maybe it looks like it when I persistently point at something instead of saying what...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2023
1 points

Do.you ever portray yourself as something you're not just to kinda hide the fact you stutter? This may seem like a confusing question cause hell I couldn't even find the right wording for it. But basi...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2023
1 points

Opening up and disclosing it beforehand takes bravery and you should be proud of yourself for that. As 25-year-old male who stutters since birth, I rarely disclose it before a conversation with strang...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 15, 2023
2 points

Same here (although not Italian).. I will sometimes, if I feel a stutter come up, choose an English word or phrase that sounds "less native", if you will, because it's easier to get out. This helps my...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 15, 2023
2 points

Yes, very overwhelming. I just stayed to myself and focused on my studies. I do have some regrets, never again will I be young and in a place full of other young people... but equally its just who I a...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Loneliness & IsolationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 15, 2023
1 points

well when i talk about how i stutter i dont stutter even if i tried...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride