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commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
1 points

This is really hard to explain in brief but I’ll try to be as concise as possible: The most common kinds of therapy (fluency shaping) teach you ways to MANAGE your stutter so it’s almost hidden. That...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
1 points

My stutter goes away, too, when I'm angry. I think it's because at that point I don't give a shit what people think and words will just flow. It's just like feeling comfortable with certain people. Yo...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & DisabilityMeds & Substances
Stress & Fight/FlightAuthenticity vs. MaskingRecreationa substances (e.g. Alcohol, Cannabis)
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
2 points

100%! Everything you just said I competely agree and resonate with. NOT caring is hard at first, but in time, and with practice, it will be so liberating. Stuttering is only a problem becaus...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
2 points

Thanks! You make a great point about choosing to not care. Just as we choose to care about things like stuttering we can choose not to. It took me many years to really understand this. Once you ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 18, 2023
2 points

Thanks! And to you also, great reply. I hope everyone here reads your post. Sometimes, I feel it's almost blasphamy to say it's mostly fear based. You put it into words very clearly. In my h...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 17, 2023
1 points

Very good question. A very important question as well! The thing is this: We anticipate (negatively) because we sense some form of a threat. We do not negatively anticipate something, if we d...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Anticipating StutteringAvoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 17, 2023
8 points

This is one of the most relatable aspects of stuttering, the seemingly random variability and the frustration that comes with that. I certainly notice an increase in my stuttering frequency when I’m s...

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commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
3 points

Thanks for the reply! I’m working on not hiding my stutter, cause when I let it be it feels so freeing. I just can’t stay ahold of that confidence and end up going back to hiding it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
5 points

Thanks! I’m normally pretty passive and try to hide my stutter around people. But I’ve noticed that causes ore anxiety and makes it harder for me to communicate. When I get a new job I’m gonna try my ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
5 points

Hey! I'm on a PC now, so I have a better way of explaining what I meant. I can't stand explaining things through my phone's keyboard. Sorry if this is going to get a bit long. I can get quite pass...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
10 points

"... not from a jedi." Lol. Seriously, though, yes. Anxiety is just a voice in your head tricking you into believing a lot of unhelpful u happy stuff. Anxiety tricks you into believing that somethin...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
1 points

we're just starting out, but you are free to join in, although much of the activity will be lawyers specific, i'd say much of the advice/help would apply to any corporate environment...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2023
14 points

Anxiety or overthinking can do lots of weird things. A lot of people report lessening or even overcoming their stutter after overcoming their fear of speaking - their fear of stuttering. Im the sa...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2023
3 points

1. I read about a concept that is called "blackout" that occurs when you are about to stammer some people tend to go unconscious. You describe it pretty well youself. It´s a way of escaping or not dea...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+2 more
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2023
2 points

Like most things it’s different for everyone individually - some people feel relaxed speak smoother some people feel paranoid about their speech - like life, you just have to find a routine that works...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 14, 2023
7 points

This. I would say 90% of the stuttering will go away with the right mind set and right emotional control. I have experienced this a few times, when I'm not thinking at all in my words, and I'm extreme...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingTrauma & Psychological+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 14, 2023
1 points

I'm the same, you just have to override the voice in your head telling you not to speak. It's hard but once you do it a few times it snowballs...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingMindset shift
commentr/StutterAug 14, 2023
1 points

There's no point stressing about it, try to be yourself and don't get too caught up in your own thoughts. I know it's easier said than done...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
6 points

You could go with a face with tape or something over the mouth but that's I think that's kinda negative. What about a swallow carrying a scroll? Showing ease of communication, using air, etc. Idk I t...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
1 points

Hey! Fellow PWS here - thank goodness for tech! Dating apps worked well for me. You can connect via text and work it in after you’ve established a person is worth the effort. Things don’t work for...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Dating & RomanceAuthenticity vs. MaskingFluency Techniques