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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
3 points

Same here! I forced myself to step out of my comfort zone and just do it. Did I stutter? Of course. Did I keep doing it, YES I did. I learned that by disclosing my stutter, it allowed me to educ...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
1 points

From what I have understood of stuttering, its a habit, and a vicious circle of each block or stuttering feeding that habit. If only we could get more moments of fluency so our brains can break from t...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
2 points

Use a buffer word, that helps me. For example, "Hi, my name is Pedro". "Hello, my name is Pedro " or my favorite "Howdy, my name is Pedro ". If all else fails, just disclose your stutter and end ...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
1 points

Yes, I know of that programme, but it's not like it's the foundational manual for stutter. Whatever is in those pages is not sacrosanct. Also, of course stutterers can improve. That's what we're both...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
1 points

That seems to be a common one for a lot of us. In the past, I’ve even called out sick to avoid such a meeting. I don’t have to tell anyone, the anxiety leading up to such things is awful. I’m doing be...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
2 points

I have developed a coping mechanism.. I imagine 3 hours after the meeting, will I be as stressed as I am now? Will anyone care about the fact I stuttered through another meeting? It lowers my anxiety ...

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postr/StutterJan 20, 2020
11 points

I can’t say my name.

I can’t say my name. Im 29, been stuttering since im 8. I work for a big company and we’re always in meetings. I can talk just fine cause i developped a good technique, but when we have to introduce o...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
1 points

1.If you read Dave McGuire's 'Beyond Stuttering', sports analogies are everywhere in the book. He actively tells people to think about speech as some kind of sports. The McGuire programme, as you may ...

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postr/StutterJan 20, 2020
95 points

Something good happened to me today

Something good happened to me today I was making an order at KFC when I blocked in the middle of my order. The employee noticed and started laughing. His manager saw that and took me aside. She told m...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2020
1 points

I'm in the same sort of situation. I don't say much at all, nor do I have the desire to say anything. Even when I'm with close friends, I can't really keep up a conversation....

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postr/StutterJan 19, 2020
4 points

Don't know what to say

Don't know what to say So I'm 26 male stutter mostly with blocks sometimes pretty badly but from time to time it get easier. Recently I went on a date with this girl and everything seemed to be ok I...

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postr/StutterJan 19, 2020
3 points

Video game

Video game If you don’t want to read play videogames with mic and force yourself to talk you can be a douche bag a good person or just a dick head the point is force yourself to talk and be more confi...

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postr/StutterJan 19, 2020
41 points

The Telephone

The Telephone My first post in the sub! I’m a 40 year old lifelong stutterer. Partial word, whole word and blocking (the one I fear the most!)Probably thought to be mild in adulthood, though I wouldn...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2020
1 points

Well, you probably know that you can't really interfere with your unconscious part so you can't do that much. But i think being more confident would help pretty much. If you try to talk as much as pos...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2020
5 points

even if u successfully hide your stuttering the next time, it'll be back. Embrace it, people don't really care that we stutter, yes they find it funny but trust me no one actually cares. I self isolat...

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postr/StutterJan 19, 2020
3 points

Really confusing

Really confusing Hope you all doing great I was just wondering why I have problem speaking ( Idk if it is stammering or stuttering or sth else) when talking to ppl or in the presence of ppl, but not ...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2020
2 points

I don't think swimming is like stuttering. In fact, I don't think we should compare stuttering to any old activity we want to improve in. It's not an activity or skill we're talking about here. It's t...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2020
1 points

Thanks for that well articulated reply, but I disagree with a lot of what you say. 1.Instead of 'don't think about stuttering', I think it's far more helpful if people with our condition divert thei...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2020
12 points

How was it a bad date if she stuck around for the entire day? It seems it went relatively well! We stutterers definitely need to adjust with a person and understand their vibe and flow before we beco...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2020
17 points

>always consciously thinking of things to say that wouldn't make me stutter Well, don't do that. It adds a whole level of effort that you could do without. Just talk, don't try to evade or substit...

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