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commentr/StutterJan 1, 2024
2 points

I feel you. I also have social anxiety mostly due to my stutter. I’m on bumble bff too but I haven’t had anyone wanting to meet up yet. I don’t think you need to put it in your bio that you stutter bu...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Anxiety & Social JudgmentDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterJan 1, 2024
1 points

Tips on making friends through bumble bff as a stutterer?

Tips on making friends through bumble bff as a stutterer? Or in person. I prefer to use apps though. Should I mention in my bio that I stutter or maybe once we start chatting? Is it even possible fo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentFriendships & Belonging+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 1, 2024
3 points

Also, you can bring it up that you stutter at any point. It will likely make them more at ease....

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJan 1, 2024
16 points

I've been in this exact same situation and it's not easy my friend. It doesn't get easier the more it happens either. They won't even remember this incident by the next day. I usually say 'sorry, I ha...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & Advocacy
Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesFluency Techniques
commentr/StutterJan 1, 2024
4 points

this happens. and it sucks. feel the pain and in the future begin to consider disclosing your stutter....

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2023
1 points

I usually say thanks, the less syllables the better. But sometimes that’s too casual so I will either stutter through “thank you” or say something like “I’m grateful” with a warm smile. If I’m just ou...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2023
1 points

Guess I didn’t explain myself well. When meeting new person, say “FYI, I speak with a stutter, which means you may hear periods of silence or may have to wait a moment for my words to come out.” Or ...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & Advocacy
Disclosure & Telling OthersFluency Techniques
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2023
1 points

The only thing that I found Helped me get through this:- whenever I'm talking with a new person- a person that I don't know- and he doesn't know me- my stuttering- I just love starting out the conver...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureDisclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2023
1 points

My friend, this is so exciting! You are fulfilling a lifelong dream! My advice to you is to focus on that; and to be open about your stuttering. As you meet people, let them know that you stutter. T...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterDec 23, 2023
3 points

Whats worked in my case (may not work in yours)

Whats worked in my case (may not work in yours) I've been a stutterer since I was 10. Been to all the therapists, tried all the tricks, and I'm happy to say that it doesn't play a major role in my lif...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2023
1 points

No. If anyone handed a pen and paper to me I would stare at them 🤨 until they withdrew it. Or tell them "that's ok, I'll say it"...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2023
1 points

Okay I’ve learned you can either say no thanks ! Sometimes I text it on my phone and hold it up or when I’m feeling bold I just say it and if it takes me a little while to get it out then they gotta w...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterDec 20, 2023
1 points

Just show it. I have my phone number written in a notes app. However most of the time I try to step over myself and say it....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2023
1 points

Even when you tell about your stutter beforehand (always do this) their expectations never meet reality. Save time and feelings by meeting up quickly, so they meet you as a person and not a text chat....

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling OthersDating & Romance
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2023
1 points

Hi! Keep your head up high. I am a woman in the same boat and I have found that being upfront and honest about my stammer helps....

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2023
1 points

I understand. I have this rule of not engaging with people online unless ive met them in real life first. And let people know you have a speech impediment early. It probably wasnt your stutter that sc...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersDating & RomanceHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2023
1 points

Don’t talk to girls on dating apps for weeks. Ask for drinks/coffee almost immediately. You can even disclose that you have a stutter, just don’t waste your time “trying to get to know each other” thr...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Dating & RomanceStigma & BullyingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2023
1 points

"Give me 20 seconds, the answer is loading. I have a stutter and proper nouns sometimes trip me up, my mouth isn’t ready yet." I'm thinking of carrying a card saying that. I can just show it if it's ...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterDec 15, 2023
1 points

Here are my techniques and strategies as a (mostly fluent-passing) stutterer

Here are my techniques and strategies as a (mostly fluent-passing) stutterer I (27M) have been dealing with a stutter all my life. Speech/stuttering has been a self-improvement project of mine for the...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2023
1 points

46/M--California. I've been in SaaS for huge private company for the past nine years...never disclosed my disfluency until recently I started to with a few clients mostly as an ice breaker and to give...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others