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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
2 points

Definitely mention it, to ease your own mind and calm your nerves. I know that when I tell interviewers about my stutter, it makes me more relaxed. Also I would never worry about not getting hired b...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career
postr/StutterJun 15, 2020
6 points

Advice?

Advice? I (19F) have a severe stutter and have been home from college ever since spring break, so about mid-late March. I’m living with my grandmother, and never had a problem until recently. She has ...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
18 points

This is probably why I’m so bad at confrontation. I hate arguing more than anything but what makes it worse is that I’m worried about looking stupid if I stutter while arguing. I love a good debate a...

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postr/StutterJun 15, 2020
16 points

Cried to my mom yesterday

Cried to my mom yesterday Hey everyone, I hope everyone’s doing good amidst this pandemic. Ever since the pandemic started, my stutter has gotten worse, I think it’s the worst it has ever gotten! So ...

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

Stuttering is all in your head. I am sure you have heard this by now but I’ll just reiterate. Most stutterers can actually speak perfectly fluently on their own. Stuttering is all in your head. The tr...

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

This response hit home. These things are like my top 3 stutter-inducers. I've gotten better at asking questions, but still not great...

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postr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

How can I get the courage to apply for a job?

How can I get the courage to apply for a job? Im 17 and still haven't had a job yet. If I could I would. But, I have anxiety, mostly about seeing people I know or having to describe things/talk to str...

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

I never did and then started to within the past year and it honestly has been such a life-changer. I feel like I'm getting out ahead of it and it makes me so much more relaxed. It's also great to see ...

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Employment & CareerAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

> But then the insecure part of me keeps telling me that I am defective and I’ll be lucky to find anyone who will put up with me. Feel you! Hope things go well for you....

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

Honestly it’s not even that big of a deal when you tell him. The weight that comes off your shoulder will make you feel so much better. What’s holding you back from telling him?...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
1 points

if its really bad bring notecards. You get there first. Your first card says "I have a stutter. I think I have been mostly able to hid it over the phone." Second card says, "This is my backup, I get...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
1 points

You’re right. Knowing that he doesn’t know about it is stressing me tf out. And I know that I stutter more when I’m nervous, which makes me stutter more, etc. I think I’m gonna text him about it tonig...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

First of all, thank you for reading my post and replying to me. And secondly, the rational side of me keeps saying that he’s not gonna care (and if he does he’s not worth my time). But then the insecu...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

FaceTime him. Or mention in casual conversation “I have a stutter” if it’s a dealbreaker or turn off, how embarrassing for him...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
7 points

Tell him before you meet. It will reduce the pressure on you and he won't be surprised when you guys are talking....

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

I would say just DO IT! Set your intentions, you will go on this date and you will have fun. Wake up in the morning, put on a nice song have a great morning, have a nice cup of coffee, open the wind...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
13 points

I (16F) don't have a lot of dating experience either, but I would suggest FaceTiming him or calling him (if you have his phone number) first. If he loses interest because of your stuttering, then I'm ...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

If you already told him you have a stutter and he’s ok with it I wouldn’t worry. Just be yourself and stutter in front of him. Better to get it out the way and see if he was honest when it said it did...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

People care a lot less about your stutter than you think. That's something I've only recently realized. People care a lot more about all the baggage that comes along with it (anxiety, weirdness, etc.)...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
3 points

honestly thank you so so so much. i want to tell him i’m nervous but i don’t want him to feel nervous, if that makes sense? or make things more awkward by telling him i’m nervous? but thank you so muc...

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