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postr/StutterAug 18, 2024
42 points

Alien: Romulus and stuttering

Alien: Romulus and stuttering No spoilers! I'm not sure what I'm expecting from this post, but I feel I need to get out my thoughts somewhere. I just saw Alien: Romulus today and while I liked the m...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterAug 18, 2024
12 points

Instead of thinking about *what* to say, for example in a job interview or with a girl, all I think about is *how* to say

Instead of thinking about *what* to say, for example in a job interview or with a girl, all I think about is *how* to say While others will have all the time they need to practice for a job interview,...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
postr/StutterAug 15, 2024
15 points

I cringe when I hear my voice or when I see a video of myself speaking.

I cringe when I hear my voice or when I see a video of myself speaking. Context. This year I’ve been pushing myself to be more social and to stutter openly especially at work. At work I signed up fo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2024
2 points

The only impact it has had is the impact I have allowed it to have. When I left school I was nervous and didn't want to talk to people. I started a business and tried to communicate via Email and AIM...

Identity & DisabilitySchool & WorkCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & CareerFluency Techniques
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2024
1 points

You learn both physical as well as psychological techniques. The physical part is mainly coastal breathing with some other things. The psychological part teaches you to be very assertive to counteract...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 14, 2024
5 points

That's actually exactly what I was thinking about earlier today. I was thinking why am I so worried about what others think about me? Why am I so scared ? Why is it not an issue for some people but ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 14, 2024
3 points

Luckily, I don't stutter when I'm speaking on behalf of a company. It's like a mask. Without that filter, when I have to be just "me" instead of just another employee I struggle with keeping my stutte...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2024
2 points

I'd recommend you open stuttering, meaning that you completely show your blocks, repetitions. It will eventually help you not to feel shame when stuttering. Sometimes, it's even advisable to stutter v...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2024
4 points

Stuttering is weird because the one way you can work towards overcoming it is by not caring about it. I stuttered for 35 years, and I used to beat myself up wondering why me, why do I have this curse?...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideMindset shiftVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+1 more
postr/StutterAug 9, 2024
54 points

Telling a girl my stutter

Telling a girl my stutter So, I seen plenty of posts saying, on if women give af about us men stuttering or vice versa. Here’s a clear example. As u see above. Don’t blame ur stutter for women not wa...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Dating & RomanceIdentity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 8, 2024
1 points

Your impulse to *not apologize* for your speech is truly what I believe too and I sincerely apologize if I did a poor job explaining myself. I do not have debilitating blocks anymore. Check out m...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. MaskingBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterAug 8, 2024
0 points

I learned a challenging strategy 20 years ago that has worked for me immensly since then. It's called "Advertising" and it basically means that the first thing that you say is that you stutter. The ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Preparation & RehearsalHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 7, 2024
1 points

Stuttering has constantly been linked to incompetence. Fluent people stutter when they are under stress and pressure. A strong person leads from the front. A weak person stutters when asked a question...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/stutteringAug 6, 2024
1 points

While I see you've had a few negative experiences (and that sucks, I'm sorry to hear that), you will eventually learn that most people just... don't care. I work an office job where I present in meeti...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2024
3 points

I think it's different for each person. For me, I stutter less around strangers. Because I tell myself that strangers are not aware of the fact that I stutter. so, I don't have to worry about them exp...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2024
3 points

I always thought it was cus you are not likely to look for alternatives words while speaking to those close to you. So, when you do stutter, you stutter big. Whereas for strangers, even though you are...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2024
4 points

Right! All the time, I think about who I could be if I didn’t stutter. Because I just love talking to people....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2024
3 points

Unfortunately I know how right you are! It’s crazy how no matter how much I’ve educated myself on the psychology related to people who stutter, I still find myself struggling to actually use those tec...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2024
3 points

I dont see a reason why praying would be a particular stressor for me, and I am also not experiencing any spiritual crisis. Thank you for sharing your epxerience, I hope it's going well for you!...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2024
2 points

Maybe praying is a particular stressor. Are you having a spiritual crisis? I didn't, don't stutter anymore when I used to pray. I did finally leave a high-demand religion (LDS ) and realized I am an ...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride