commentr/stutteringAugust 6, 2024

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While I see you've had a few negative experiences (and that sucks, I'm sorry to hear that), you will eventually learn that most people just... don't care. I work an office job where I present in meetings, make a dozen phone calls a day, and frequently have 1 on 1 conversations with the owner of the company. The only person who has said anything about the stutter is the one coworker who I've been friends with for 10 years. I think he called me a "stuttering asshole" after I pulled an office prank on him. I know it's easier said than done, but you just have to hold your head high. And this is where I believe that all stutterers are actors, because even if you're woefully nervous and thinking about your stutter, you have to act confident. It's the only way I've found to get through certain situations (especially job interviews). Plus you might even be able to use it to your advantage - it makes for a pretty easy answer if/when you're asked "what's your biggest weakness?" (public speaking) or "what are some troubles you've had to overcome?" (having to navigate the idea that people aren't taking you seriously) The most important sentence I can offer you though, is this: if they care about your stutter, they aren't worth your time. Literally any decent employer will overlook it if you are good for the position. Good luck with your endeavors. If you need an ear or wanna talk shoot me a DM 👍

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Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & WorkSocial & Relationships

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & CareerDisclosure & Telling Others