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commentr/StutterMar 28, 2018
7 points

That’s the way I felt at your age. Sort of the way I feel now. I’m 50. I like the way you expressed the desperation but also the sprinkling of LOLs like “Wtf why me it’s so bassackwards retarded it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentValidation & EmpathyMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 26, 2018
2 points

I feel like why would a girl choose someone with a stutter when they can choose someone else who is actually normal lol ^^...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 25, 2018
2 points

Okay. I understand what you are saying. I cannot agree that this is not at all about the sounds and is all about novelty effect. If it were, I could have chosen any other name (possibly a new name tha...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Identity & Self-PerceptionFeared Words & Names
commentr/StutterMar 24, 2018
2 points

a trial doesn't prove anything. Have you ever not had a problem in a certain situation and then started having trouble there? Changing your name in a few spots as a test is completely different from t...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Identity & Self-PerceptionCycles & Randomness
commentr/StutterMar 23, 2018
1 points

Yes. As a trial, I started using my new name in a few places and I did not stutter. These are places where I would almost always stutter. So I know I would stutter significantly less even if I do, tha...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2018
1 points

What was therapy you had like when you were 15? Different therapies do different things. I had therapy in school when i was younger that just tried to make me fluent/not stutter. I HATED it. All it ta...

Therapy & ProfessionalIdentity & Disability
Therapy ExperiencesPositive Therapy TechniquesIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2018
2 points

Sure thing. Even though the legal stuff is yet to be done, but I tried the new name in a few places and I did not stutter so its liberating. Change of dominant hand was mostly social and cultural pre...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2018
3 points

Let us know how this change impacts you down the road. I’ve always been intrigued by the psychological aspect of stuttering Side note: why did your parents change your dominant hand?...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Identity & Self-PerceptionTrauma & Psychological
postr/StutterMar 22, 2018
7 points

Changing my name - I think it will significantly help my social skills in spite of my stutter

Changing my name - I think it will significantly help my social skills in spite of my stutter I have been a stutterer since I was about 5 years old. Not sure how I got it - I might have been mimicking...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2018
1 points

I'm pretty much the same, it drives me crazy hearing other people stutter and I hate listening to it but I guess at the end of the days that's how I really feel about myself ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 20, 2018
1 points

There was an episode of the stutter talk podcast years ago that talked about something like this. Do you know the stuttering iceberg analogy? (much of the impact of stuttering is not observable, but i...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 20, 2018
2 points

I understand what you're saying, I think. But I sort of disagree with the term 'blame'. Rather than blaming the person separating the stuttering from the reaction gives them the opportunity to exert c...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2018
2 points

Don’t try to “outgrow” your stutter. Own it. My stutter was most manageable when I didn’t associate any negative connotation to it, I didn’t see it as a problem at all. Unfortunately, around 3 years a...

Identity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Acceptance & PrideIdentity & Self-PerceptionSchool & Academic Life+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 18, 2018
2 points

I'm completely confident with my stutter but I feel the same way. I was in a speech therapy group for stutterers in school and I couldn't stand it. My stutter is very mild so listening to others w...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 18, 2018
8 points

I was never bullied in school for my stutter. But now i'm in college and my roommate has been making fun of the way I say 'a cappella' (i'm in the campus a cappella group). I usually put H's before vo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHumor & Community Tone+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 18, 2018
1 points

I completely understand, happens to me when I watch someone who has a speech difficulty, is clearly sweating, or even just "embarassing" themselves. As already stated by someone else, I think it truly...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
2 points

It's very likely not the same that's happening when a non-stutterer listens to a stutterer, so don't worry, there's very likely nothing hypocritical about it (and if so, maybe only in relation to a ve...

Community & SupportEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathyAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
3 points

I'm exactly like this. Hearing other people stutter makes me so annoyed. I know it's just projection and I totally blame myself but we just have to work on it....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
5 points

I understand. Watching or hearing people stutter makes me uncomfortable because I'm like "is what what I sound like?!" Don't worry, I feel that way to......

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
2 points

Keep playing the sport if you genuinely like it. But distance yourself from these people because they don't seem that high quality of friends. Also fuck this clique. Cliques are for people in high s...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+3 more