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commentr/StutterDec 22, 2024
3 points

I'm in the same boat as you. my friend. I'm much older, though. I remember going out on a first date and being asked if I had any siblings. I knew I'd stutter on "sister," so I said "no." After I ...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceAuthenticity vs. MaskingAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterDec 22, 2024
3 points

Not to be tooo graphic/blunt.... [Rant on] But i have a Negan baseball available - for the mouth of anyone who dares to suggest something as stupid as that! [Rant off]...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 22, 2024
1 points

Your situation is a little different but the only overall I can give you is to not try to fight it (aka not try to be fluent) because that leads to the development of behaviors that make everything wo...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterDec 22, 2024
6 points

So I find people that I am comfortable with/known a long time don't notice my stutter at all anymore. However I do. It's not insensitive, they are just used to it....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2024
3 points

It depends on what you mean by that. I do work, attend all my doctor appointments, and make calls when necessary. Do I enjoy it? Most of the time, no. Do I purposely take the easy way out when I can?...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
postr/StutterDec 18, 2024
96 points

Please don’t do my mistake

Please don’t do my mistake If I have learned anything over 20 years of stuttering, it is one important thing: never, ever run away or avoid situations. Never, ever show weakness when speaking and don...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingHelplessness & AgencyMindset shift+1 more
postr/StutterDec 18, 2024
9 points

My Journey With Stuttering: Breaking Through My Own Walls

My Journey With Stuttering: Breaking Through My Own Walls Hi everyone, I’ve wanted to share this part of my life for a while now, and today feels like the right day to do it. My journey with stutteri...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCommunity & Support
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation+2 more
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
8 points

That is a terrible time in any stutterer's life. I know for me, it was a daily grind. Especially when I knew I "had" to speak. Whether it was school, employment, socializing, etc...it was taxing. Yo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
4 points

I’m sorry you had a shitty experience. High school is rough enough, even without stuttering. Peer pressure, high expectations and the fact that brains are not fully developed yet all point to high sch...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentSeverity & FluctuationSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
1 points

Of course I am aware that the option to text him about that is available however, there will be still the time you’ll see each other in person after that and I would like to avoid the uncomfortable fe...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
2 points

Just adding to what others have said - totally understandable it should feel so difficult to talk about, we all carry so many complex feelings and shame around stammering. Do you stutter most around p...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2024
3 points

Thank you guys for the support. It really helped a lot and I think I’ll take all my courage to tell him soon. I don’t want to hide it anymore. I really appreciate your words. I’ll let you know how tha...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2024
3 points

I know the feeling of drowning in tears when talking to your boyfriend about something traumatic! I did not have to do that about my stutter as I am not someone who can hide it, so he knew that the da...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2024
2 points

The main conflict in stuttering is the struggle, is trying not to stutter. Some researchers estimate that 80% of stuttered words are due to fear of stuttering. So, be free to tell you stutter!! An...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterDec 15, 2024
38 points

My bf doesn’t know about my stutter

My bf doesn’t know about my stutter Hi, I’ve been currently 1,5year in a relationship. It’s going really well. Not only in the relationship but also with hiding my stutter. Of course I’m having bad da...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
postr/StutterDec 13, 2024
11 points

How can I stutter more gracefully?

How can I stutter more gracefully? I want to gently tap the repetitions so I don’t spit, bite myself, or have my eyes roll into the back of my head. I want to feel comfortable stuttering. Yes. The ki...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 12, 2024
1 points

What do I think happens? I think people talk about me behind my back, assume I’m weak, stupid, afraid, boring, etc… I assume women think It makes me unattractive. The faces I make doing it can be p...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 12, 2024
6 points

Making and being covert takes a serious mental toll. Stutter freely!...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterDec 12, 2024
11 points

Taming the beast

Taming the beast Hi everyone, I just came here to write something. I'm 25 y/o and since many years ago I have my stutter under control 95% of the time through a combination of crutches, fillers and wo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & Pride+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 12, 2024
3 points

You're oversimplifying and sort of misrepresenting OP's point in a malicious manner. It's about trying to turn blocking into repetition, mostly by adding voluntary repetition stuttering into your spee...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingRepetitions & Prolongations