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postr/StutterJun 18, 2020
53 points

This is unfair I have had enough!

This is unfair I have had enough! Hello guys, I am 23 year old male in London who has had a stammer since age six. I am just deeply frustrated at how my stammer is affecting every aspect of my life. I...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+3 more
postr/StutterJun 18, 2020
3 points

Do you actively tell people about your stutter? Why / why not?

Do you actively tell people about your stutter? Why / why not? I've had a stutter all my life and have only really told a few people about it, next to no one at my job. It's only slight / moderate whi...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterJun 18, 2020
26 points

I feel like I'll never be able to hold down a job because of my stutter

I feel like I'll never be able to hold down a job because of my stutter I can't deal with customers and I stutter badly under stress. My biggest fear is telling someone how much they owe and I can't p...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Feared Words & NamesHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 18, 2020
2 points

Start saying YOOO or hey! Or goodmorning/afternoon. People might think you're weird at first but people get used to it lol. I always say SMOKE UP instead of saying bye 🤣🤣🤣...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & Support
Hiding & ConcealmentHumor & Community Tone
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2020
2 points

When I met my girlfriend, I was quite afraid of telling her that I stutter. She didn't knew because I actually didn't stutter the first few times I talked to her. Then eventually I just told her and ...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceDisclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2020
3 points

I definitely relate with not able to say thank you, someone goes out of the way to help me and I find it hard to say it, and when I do say it, my voice goes down almost seeming I'm hesitating to expre...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterJun 17, 2020
39 points

Some people think that people who stutter are dumb, but don't let that discourage you from talking, please!

Some people think that people who stutter are dumb, but don't let that discourage you from talking, please! That is the worst and I feel like that is the reason why many people are not so open about i...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2020
2 points

Yeah this absolutely sucks. I've found that at least in presentations that if I smile when I get stuck on a word it disarms the crowd a bit. They know immediately that I'm aware of it, which means...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & Support
Hiding & ConcealmentHumor & Community Tone
postr/StutterJun 17, 2020
8 points

I can't say hello

I can't say hello I have this exact problem too! I just googled "I can't say hello", and I found this thread. There are other words that I struggle to say, however they don't bither me anywhere near ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2020
1 points

The beauty of reddit. Where we can express our own experiences in confidence. But yes my experience coping with my stuttering when on dates is to make it know after she has pointed it out. I will not...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceDisclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterJun 16, 2020
25 points

Stuttering and dating

Stuttering and dating Hey guys I'm curious. Has anyone else had/have trouble in dating or meeting girls so they dive deep into the "game"? With RSD or any other dating niches? And what has your expe...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
2 points

Definitely. Once I accepted my stutter and stopped trying to hide it, I gained so much more confidence....

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Acceptance & PrideHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
1 points

B’s and D’s are the hardest for me. Words beginning with vowels are always easiest. Also, this is the exact reason why I never get a sausage roll at Greggs lol...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Feared Words & NamesHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
10 points

This is so true. At least i am glad for instant messaging in which i can properly argue my point....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterJun 15, 2020
6 points

Advice?

Advice? I (19F) have a severe stutter and have been home from college ever since spring break, so about mid-late March. I’m living with my grandmother, and never had a problem until recently. She has ...

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
18 points

This is probably why I’m so bad at confrontation. I hate arguing more than anything but what makes it worse is that I’m worried about looking stupid if I stutter while arguing. I love a good debate a...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
4 points

“Don’t worry, the connection is fine. I lag in person too! If you’d like a coffee break, I can probably turn it up for you...”...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
4 points

Just keep attending more interviews. You will get nervous, you will fail. But just keep trying. It depends upon the job u r trying for too. If it is into sales and marketing i think the stutter will ...

School & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
Employment & CareerAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterJun 15, 2020
7 points

Meetings can be so bad.

Meetings can be so bad. I am currently interning at a company and with the lockdown situation going on there are so many meetings being held everyday and with my stutter i just feel like i should be d...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentSadness & Hopelessness+2 more
postr/StutterJun 15, 2020
16 points

Cried to my mom yesterday

Cried to my mom yesterday Hey everyone, I hope everyone’s doing good amidst this pandemic. Ever since the pandemic started, my stutter has gotten worse, I think it’s the worst it has ever gotten! So ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more