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commentr/StutterOct 26, 2018
1 points

To be honest, I've never spoken with someone so much as I spoke with myself. It's not because I stutter, but it helps me to really think deeply about things and to really work things out in my mind. i...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Experiential AssociationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 25, 2018
2 points

Exactly this! I’m also sorry to hear that man but mindfulness and self compassion goes a long way especially for us stutterers/anxious/depressed types of people. You have to allow yourself to feel all...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindfulness & BreathingHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 25, 2018
4 points

I stutter more around people I am comfortable with and already know I stutter. I worked on a retail sales floor for 3 years and can talk to strangers like it's nothin' but trying to tell my dad a funn...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterOct 24, 2018
1 points

It definitely helped me come out and stutter more freely. I work in a school and have a few fluency kids, which is cool because I can relate on another level with them. I still am avoidant but am much...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 24, 2018
1 points

I stutter the most around people that I have openly stuttered with before. Whether it is because I don’t have the energy to employ my tradecraft to become the “unstuttering” me with those who already...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 23, 2018
1 points

Are you basing your opinion on your own experience? Although stuttering can be situational, it is not necessarily caused by feelings of shyness or anxiety. As an example, I don't stutter because I'm...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 23, 2018
1 points

That makes perfect sense. I hate it when people ask my name. It is always a 50/50 chance I will get the word out without anyone noticing my stutter. Whats worse is the times people notice the telltale...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 23, 2018
2 points

Mine is not as bad as it used to be. Its barely noticeable. The one thing i notice i have most trouble saying is my name, every other wors i barely pay attention to. But if i had the opportunity to go...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 20, 2018
0 points

I don't think there's misinformation per se. It might be a different in interpretation to what the OP is experiencing, but I was just giving my 2c on what it seemed like to me. The OP says he has av...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 20, 2018
4 points

Hello! Speech Therapist here! There seems to be some misinformation. Covert vs Overt stuttering has absolutely nothing to do with the type of dysfluency. If a person who stutters is covert it mea...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
1 points

I’m sure he knows.. if he’s really oblivious TELL HIM?! hiding things in a relationship isn’t good big or small and honestly stuttering is a small issue (coming from a stutter). Once you tell him he’l...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
4 points

Just tell him. If you can't tell someone about your speech disorder without them getting actually mad at you, then that says to me that they're not ready for marriage. But chances are, you're overthin...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
5 points

He knows. If it bothered him that you stutter he wouldn't be engaged to you. The issue here is you. Trying to hide something like this from your future husband is kinda weird. ...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
6 points

Honestly yeah I would. I often watch videos of YouTubers playing games with their friends, and they're always making quips and the conversation just flows between them so well, makes me wish I could t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
6 points

I don't get too bothered by what people say about the stutter, I'm more bothered by the innate feeling of "that guy's nervous as hell" when I stutter. Ruins first impressions, especially with girls I'...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
9 points

The stuttering doesn’t bother me as much as me being scared of what other people think about me (in general, not just the stuttering)....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
10 points

Came here to say this. For some twisted fate reason, girls I've met have found it cute. But I'm so warped from being taunted about it as a kid that I found this fact difficult to accept so when a girl...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterOct 17, 2018
5 points

If you don't notice your self stutter it's not really your problem haha I wish I didn't notice mine. I sometimes don't notice when I'm talking with my friends or my wife. People that I know understand...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterOct 16, 2018
2 points

What really helps me is to not care. I’ve read somewhere that the more you care about your stutter and try to prevent it, the more you stutter. And vice versa. If you go in knowing that you may stutte...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 16, 2018
3 points

I really appreciate the advice. These stuff always manage to get me nervous but I’ll try my best to relax. Oh and I’m 14. ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking