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postr/StutterNov 29, 2021
40 points

Tried to force a word out. Embarrassed myself bigly.

Tried to force a word out. Embarrassed myself bigly. I’m trying to embrace my stutter. I’m trying anything at this point. So anyway, I’m at a group gathering. The group was talking about something. I ...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 29, 2021
2 points

I hit anything near to me. Like a table or a wall when I stutter. And few days back a colleague of mine saw me stutter and hit the table for the first time. I think he had pity in his eyes or maybe su...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & StutteringIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentPhysical TensionIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 28, 2021
2 points

It just makes sense. It's not that you are focusing on your stutter. It's that you are trying not to stutter. That's where you put your focus. And whatever you resist persists, so if you are try...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
3 points

Don’t do anything, parents putting me in speech classes when I was in grade school taught me something was wrong with me, and it took a long long time for me to get out of that mindset and I still str...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
2 points

From having a stammer my whole life, I can tell you the best thing you can do to help a child with a stammer is to get them used to talking about their emotions and how they feel about their stammer. ...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
5 points

This is very insightful- I was afraid that somehow by ignoring it I am making it worse. I will try my best to acknowledge it and tell her it’s ok! We have a phrase around the house that “everyone is d...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideShame & Embarrassment
postr/StutterNov 27, 2021
29 points

My stutter is destroying my relationship with my family, and I don't know what to do

My stutter is destroying my relationship with my family, and I don't know what to do ^((English is not my first language)) Basically I can't have any conversation with my parents, I feel like my s...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
4 points

This. My family went the “ignore it” route and it made me feel like I should be ashamed of it, the elephant in the room. Acknowledge it ans acknowledge that it doesn’t matter, she can still do anythin...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
2 points

Precisely. My youngest daughter had a severe, I mean as bad as mine was when she was about three or four. I made an effort to tell everyone to just ignore it, pay no attention to it and it went away a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
2 points

Thanks! That’s exactly what I’m doing now - ignoring it. We haven’t talked to her about it at all since we stopped seeing the speech therapist, except giving her sympathy when she said her friends we...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2021
10 points

As a kid everytime someone brought my stutter up it made it worse. In my very unqualified opinion, I think the best thing you can do is just make her feel like it doesn't matter, treat it like a non ...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Stigma & BullyingShame & EmbarrassmentSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2021
1 points

I know the feeling ☹️ I’m a cashier so every time someone asks me for my name during phone calls I can’t say my name. Usually I’ll say “Its ____” instead of my name that way I can connect it with the ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAnxiety & Social JudgmentShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2021
1 points

I stutter when I am nervous, shy, embarrassed, attracted to someone, or just because it randomly happens, I have had partners who have said it's endearing or cute, honestly, I didn't care and I told t...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Stress & Fight/FlightShame & EmbarrassmentDating & Romance
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2021
1 points

It sucks and I was literally cringing reading your story. Do wear name tags at work? If so, have you thought about using a fake name that's easier to say?...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Shame & EmbarrassmentFeared Words & Names
postr/StutterNov 26, 2021
42 points

Stuttered so badly at work

Stuttered so badly at work I just finished my 2nd week at my first waitressing job. I’ve been enjoying it and it’s been great to practice building confidence talking to customers. But today was awful...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+2 more
commentr/StutterNov 24, 2021
2 points

I have nothing to add to these wonderful responses, but for me this was my five years of high school, every fucking day. (Australia doesn't have junior high. It's seven years of primary, five of secon...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
postr/StutterNov 24, 2021
107 points

Got bullied for the first time today, I feel like shit.

Got bullied for the first time today, I feel like shit. I've never been bullied in school before. I have normal friends, normal people in my school and they never mentioned anything about my stutter,...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
postr/StutterNov 23, 2021
16 points

Stuttering like hell in my group project

Stuttering like hell in my group project Today we had a group project. It was a bad week for me, stuttering wise, so I was already dreading it. For some reason I thought it was a good idea to have a b...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceMeds & Substances
Stress & Fight/FlightPropositionality & WeightShame & Embarrassment+1 more
postr/StutterNov 23, 2021
5 points

I think stuttering has made me forget English

I think stuttering has made me forget English I literally don't know how to start off my sentence as my mind went blank when my tutor asked me a question during class. Made me feel like a clown 🤡 as ...

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2021
1 points

Same here tbh! I wouldn't want to see someone else going through that, not because of me at least, because I know exactly how hard it is!...

Community & SupportEmotional Experience
Validation & EmpathyShame & Embarrassment