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commentr/StutterJul 11, 2020
3 points

Thank you for putting in the time and writing this wonderful and inspiring post!! Similar to your target audience, I am 20 and in college! I am guilty of some of the things you mentioned, such as feel...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 11, 2020
3 points

I’ll read your essay a little later. I took notice of some very good points. I didn’t take seriously advice given many years ago which I’m probably paying the price for now in the so called “golden ye...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentExperiential AssociationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 11, 2020
1 points

I feel you as I've been there. It's hard to give you a good advice for your particular case because it's hard to adress if it's a toxic or discriminative enviroment or not and how you feel about your ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 11, 2020
3 points

I can vouch for this one. It's a bit risky, since if you stutter badly, the whole image just crumbles embarrassingly but if you master it, its quite effective....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 10, 2020
2 points

I’m exactly the same dude. I suck at cold calling and I become self conscious and worse when someone points it out. Just don’t worry too much about your stuttering. If it happens, it happens. Who care...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 10, 2020
9 points

Yeah man go apply for that position, it seems like your managers really like you if they told you that. And with your coworker, I agree with what the other OP said, she’s definitely using a defense me...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 10, 2020
19 points

It seems like a self defense mechanism of hers. She wants the position and reacted that way to defend herself/her claim to the manager position. If she was your friend and didn’t work at the store, he...

Identity & Disability
Stigma & BullyingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 9, 2020
2 points

That's brave, but I think editing your stutter isn't the way to go. That's part of yourself, I think the best path is accept it and show it to the world with the rest of your content :) Take a look a...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 8, 2020
1 points

Some of the things we think about ourselves can become habitual, and can hinder us from engaging with other ways of thinking, that might help our situation. This is not a straightforward thing. It's ...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 8, 2020
1 points

Well, first of all, "subconscious" isn't a well-defined term. That's why I mention the model thing. Lots of non-fruitful things floating around in that regard. We shouldn't be "self-conceptualizing" i...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. MaskingShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJul 8, 2020
2 points

Thank you man, I’ve learned after 6 years of therapy that it can’t be fixed but you can learn to accept it because it’s a part of who you are. And the only way it gets better is by being comfortable w...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2020
3 points

Just do it!!! I started 2 years ago and I'm having so much fun. Who cares if you stutter!!!! Go have fun!!!...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2020
4 points

I say just do it! I just started streaming on YouTube and I screw myself daily with something! As long as you’re having fun that’s what matters!...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2020
5 points

You are very right. I think there is so much shame, embarrassment, fear, guilt, anger, denial, and hopelessness built up from childhood when you stutter that you don't want to stutter, even though in ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2020
8 points

My 2 Cents: I am 49 years old, master's degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology, married with 1 son AND a national trainer. My stutter started as a result from a traumatic dog attack at the ...

Causes & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Stress & Fight/FlightFluency TechniquesMindfulness & Breathing+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 1, 2020
8 points

A couple of thoughts: 1. Reading your text shows me you are really good at expressing yourself. You are able to tell a person exactly how you feel (like I could from your text) and that helps a lot ...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 29, 2020
5 points

Your Resume is going to go through an algorithm first before even getting to a human mostly likely since it was on a website. If you don't get an interview, I truly doubt it was because of you mentio...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJun 29, 2020
1 points

I actually think employers would appreciate your candor. It shows confidence and the impression that you “own” your stutter....

Identity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Authenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJun 29, 2020
0 points

In my opinion it hurt more not putting it in. I was accepted by alot of places for interviews when I didn't put it in and instead said when I got into the interview. When I put it in I got less inte...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJun 28, 2020
1 points

I agree with what you're saying although I'm not complaining =). Just looking to disccus this topic with other stutterers. I'm my case I never experienced bullying and no one in my family stutters. ...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Genetic & Family FactorsAuthenticity vs. Masking