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commentr/StutterOct 30, 2022
1 points

I try to cope by seeing that it’s a buffer. Why would I want to associate with someone that doesn’t respect me ? It sucks, yes, but at least you’d find a few good people who stick around. I’m awfull...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentFrustration & Anger+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2022
8 points

We understand. I once went without heat/hot water for 3 days in the dead of winter bc I was too afraid to call and give my addesss. When I finally did, the receptionist figured out why I hadn’t call...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2022
4 points

I’m exactly like you right now OP, I’m 26 and I noticed my stutter coming back since 2020. I had a stutter when I was a kid but it was not as bad during my middle school or college days until 2020 it ...

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Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2022
5 points

Everything you are describing is a stutter or a secondary behavior. This type of impactful blocking dysfluency is ultimately more of an anxiety disorder - which is why even an SLP doesn’t understand ...

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentStress & Fight/FlightAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2022
2 points

I have a stutter and physical symptoms as well. When I have to talk on the phone I'm nervous. Sometimes if I have to order food or something I write down what I have to say and that helps. I know life...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2022
4 points

I had a slight stutter from about 7-11, it went away and came back when I was 18ish… it just happened randomly and has gotten worse, I’ve tried a few online courses and stuff with basically no success...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+2 more
commentr/StutterOct 28, 2022
3 points

Yeah I totally get the extreme pounding heart beats, if I rehearse or not it normally ends up the same embarrassment, I think its worse as well by who's serving you, some people just seem to put y...

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & ConcealmentSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterOct 28, 2022
12 points

I know exactly what you mean, but you have to stop rehearsing before approaching anyone. It is just making your anxiety worse. I used to do that, heck,I was even afraid. My heart used to beat so hard ...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterOct 28, 2022
2 points

Same here. Can't tell you how many times I've needed to call a bank or credit card company to inquire about something benign like getting a replacement card, and when I'm asked to verify my identity...

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Feared Words & NamesAnxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterOct 28, 2022
34 points

I'm afraid it's part of living with a stutter, I find the anxiety way more worse though, just going to the shop knowing I'll have to ask for a specific item is a nightmare, I play it out in my head...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & ConcealmentSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterOct 27, 2022
8 points

Idk if this counts but I get extreme anxiety whenever I have to make phone calls for appointments. Wish there was a online scheduling option for most places. Only place I been to that offers that is l...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterOct 27, 2022
2 points

This is spot on. Trying to reduce stuttering doesn't help. It made me develop even worse of a problem trying to block the stuttering and now I can't stop blocking....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterOct 26, 2022
2 points

I became 99.9% fluent by actively disclosing my stutter. I now can say everything I want to, in the way I want to, and when I want to. There's a very good chance that your technique will work for...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 26, 2022
7 points

Those are all secondary behaviors that go along with an impactful dysfluency/stutter - it is considered part of the stutter, and when you learn NEW ways to gain more control of your speech, those seco...

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Physical TensionAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 26, 2022
5 points

The problem became bigger with the blocking. Now I wish having a stutter was the only thing. Now I clench my jaw and shake my head and it's totally uncontrollable. I bite my tongue sometimes I think m...

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & Avoidance
Physical TensionBlocks & StoppagesAvoidance & Substitution+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 26, 2022
6 points

I have a very similar kind. It used to be really bad in high school and has lessened a little over the years (I'm now 30) The grimacing is very familiar and, at my worst it would cause me to jerk my...

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & Avoidance
Physical TensionBlocks & StoppagesAvoidance & Substitution+2 more
commentr/StutterOct 26, 2022
11 points

You are describing secondary behaviors of stuttering pattern from someone who is trying very hard to be covert (hide their stutter from shame). I’m an older female who works with young children and ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 26, 2022
5 points

There is no magic pill to “cure” stuttering… There is only speech modification. Talk quieter. Talk in a higher range. Talk slower. Speak in small clauses and limit your speaking to the top half of you...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentPropositionality & Weight
commentr/StutterOct 25, 2022
12 points

A sensitive child might be acutely aware of what's going on and they may feel that the food and such are a bribe. As a person who had a severe stutter, even when I found nice people, I was physically...

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commentr/StutterOct 25, 2022
3 points

The truth is, that the avoiding behavior and having a goal of being a covert stutterer IS actually what makes your stutter worse. I had 2 job interviews this week. First one, I said nothing about my...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & Substitution+2 more