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commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
8 points

After I went off on her. I really had to stop, and had a moment of oh shit. Did I really just say that, especially in a time where EVERYTHING you say is offensive. I feel the big problem is stuttering...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingFrustration & AngerAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
2 points

I think for us stress does make it worse. Not that the stutter originates from stress, I mean I genuinely don't know and feel like we may never know but I know it's come on randomly for me, but if yo...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Stress & Fight/FlightAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterDec 29, 2020
1 points

Interesting I never thought of it that way, thanks! I have to run now to work but I'm going to remember that!...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Acceptance & PrideStress & Fight/FlightAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
1 points

I think you are right there. Confidence, life goals in motion, on the right track, this helps so much with stress. I made a video about it that I just posted on here but my best advice is not to eve...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

I wanted to make this video in hopes I could help anyone by explaining what worked for me. I had wanted to talk about it for so long but it was so difficult to explain what it meant to not think abo...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingMindset shiftVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
1 points

I see it as something that benefits me. A tool that I can use for my own development (since it indicates when you are being fake in some way) And also something that allows me to find and connect wi...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureMindset shift
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

Swearing before you stutter is a classic! How do you look at your stutter now?...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Strategic Swearing/CursingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

Great story, I resonated with it a lot. Some advice I can give is to focus on the very root of the stutter. Not the stutter itself. Most of my life I was trying to overcome the "stutter" and not th...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Trauma & PsychologicalAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

I used to dumb down my personality as well, but also swear before every word I would stutter on. Swearing at the waitress on a first date because I couldn't get a word out.. rough go Those days are...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionStrategic Swearing/CursingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

Boom. That's awesome I found cutting out video games was the most impactful habit change that helped me in my journey. Have you tried cutting it out before or is this the first shot?...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

I absolutely does. If you let it. If you only focus on the stuttering being _there_, you're powerless. But you should focus instead of the things you _do_. You do things _regardless_ of your stutter....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Helplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

Oh, this wasn't about how the _lady_ or the _friends_ felt. It was about focusing on the good things we can achieve and experience in our lives. So yes, this is exactly about changing how _we_ feel -...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

First of all, thank you for sharing your story. Second, I began mindful meditation two years ago and I've seen a significant improvement. Many people who stutter are chasing the 'fluency gods' but s...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindfulness & BreathingAcceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
3 points

I want to reduce spending time in playing computer games and listening too much music, for I feel I have not much energy for other activities. New habits: speaking more in public, more physical activ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindfulness & BreathingFluency TechniquesVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

I would probably go back to school (10 years old) and go on from there. But this doesn't make sense because 10 years old me wouldn't have my experience. I will not lie - I have thought about this ...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftHelplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
4 points

Huh, that's an odd notion. I mean, if we "redo" it, who's to say it doesn't turn out _worse_? I've stuttered and had perfectly fine outcomes. I've also not stuttered and had shitty outcomes. I don't t...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 28, 2020
2 points

The thing is I don’t fight it at all, It just happens and takes control whenever it wants. I actually do a lot of social things too so I’m constantly exposing it. It really isn’t me who’s the problem...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterDec 27, 2020
3 points

I am the same way, I can have a full on conversation with myself like some crazy person, and not stutter once. When I get around people I start stuttering. Like I said in another post, I feel part of ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 26, 2020
1 points

Lol. I hate stuttering a lot. When I grow up I want to be an actor, and when I act I don't stutter, so it's perfect....

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Roles & PerformanceAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 26, 2020
1 points

To give an additional angle to what's been presented in the thread so far: We're not "in our mind" before we're "in the world". This means there's not a "place" where we reside, and from which we wan...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception