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commentr/StutterSep 19, 2022
6 points

You're on the right path of trying to say the words you want regardless if you stutter or not. I used to have a million avoidance tactics but I felt like it really watered down my personality and tu...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAcceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterSep 19, 2022
15 points

Do you mask your stutter? How do you hide your stutter?

Do you mask your stutter? How do you hide your stutter? I would only say words and phrases that I know I could say without stuttering. Even if the words/phrases are not relevant to a conversation. If ...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Authenticity vs. MaskingHiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterSep 16, 2022
3 points

Disclosing is a technique to trick your brain into *not* trying to hide your stutter...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterSep 16, 2022
3 points

Oh I will! They will hear it anyway, but clearing the way will be just much easier. Yeah, I have noticed that! Thank you!...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 16, 2022
3 points

And when meeting new colleagues, please proudly tell them you stutter. We tend to block *because* we are trying to hide the fact that we stutter. Congrats!...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterSep 15, 2022
4 points

You can take this with a grain of salt since I'm still young and it's just my own experience. I'm homeschooled and I live on a farm and have a lot of unusual interests and hobbies and don't care at al...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterSep 15, 2022
1 points

For ages I've avoided speaking because I knew I will stutter but for some reason for the past 3 weeks I just didn't care anymore about my stutter, it held me back mentally way more then physically I j...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterSep 15, 2022
1 points

I understand that blocking for 5 seconds might be a lot for you. It is for some, for others it it not. I have myself blocked in front of many people, during large lectures, presentations etc. in the m...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation+3 more
commentr/StutterSep 14, 2022
9 points

if I sense that I am about to stammer, I start talking as if I am extremely bored...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 14, 2022
1 points

He also does free talks on Skype. Who more people don’t speak to him I don’t know. I’ve done it past 2 years, joined speaking groups, things improved loads. Never pay attention to this who say it can’...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterSep 14, 2022
1 points

I was in the exact same boat as you man. If you know the answer, please do say it, regardless of stuttering! Your contribution is worth a lot more than giving in to stuttering. Trust me. Yes, it will ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterSep 11, 2022
13 points

I discovered something new about myself

I discovered something new about myself I have always been an introvert and avoided talking in social settings as much as possible. However, for the past couple of months, I have made efforts to put ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 7, 2022
1 points

So choose for stopping compulsion or make a choose-not-compulsion mentality and simulate this feeling or anchor when you stutter...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 7, 2022
1 points

Let's exclude TBI... That's a whole different thing. You and I are on such different pages here. It wasn't about removing the stutter. As such, the question of triggers wasn't applicable either. Or ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 7, 2022
1 points

I agree, my message is not combatatively meant and more meant to be objective in order to get straight to the point. You said: "I don't follow". \-> I will try to explain. \-> imagine that I'm...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2022
1 points

"Overcoming stuttering is about becoming the most authentic version of yourself." \-> putting the word 'authentic' on a forum like this is very surreal. I might understand the term as 'being your ...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingMindset shift
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2022
1 points

"This allows you to express yourself without doubts, anxiety, and fear. " \-> precisely. It's not about desentitizing. Because then we learn to speak without fear \-> it's about learning to sp...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2022
7 points

To be honest, I had the same issue as you. What I tried was this: \- when I'm alone I don't stutter Strategy: 1. when I'm speaking with people, before I actually speak I first visualize (imagine) ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2022
3 points

I agree with you about the whole "fear to stutter" thing to a degree, I hardly stutter at all when I'm alone. And it's definitely more of a cognitive, mental thing for me rather than a physical malady...

Therapy & ProfessionalAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Seeking TherapyOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2022
17 points

A lot of gold in there….agreed, the more I try to be fluent, the more likely I am to stammer. As such, I do not aim to be fluent, rather communicate effectively. At least in my thinking anyway I hear...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride