I agree, my message is not combatatively meant and more meant to be objective in order to get straight to the point. You said: "I don't follow". \-> I will try to explain. \-> imagine that I'm a kid, going for the first time to karate lessons. I come back home and my strict dad (who will never surrender) keeps nagging whole evening: "you were really bad at karate because of this and that""you don't have any control and probably never will". \-> fact is, I truly don't care about my abilities regarding karate so I don't even think anything of the triggers my dad throws at me. But the moment I start to convince my dad, then I 'engage' to the trigger which makes the trigger important. Then I make the 'trigger: I can't do Karate' real. This means I'm bothered by the trigger and I have the need to combat it and change the trigger as if the trigger is 'true' and fearful. Just like how we have a trigger "I will stutter now" and see it as fearful and true and by default (if we don't use a technique) we are constantly trying to change or ignore the trigger but if convincing or distraction really helps, we would have removed stuttering by now. Really deep inside of us we truly believe we are a stutterer and that we need 'more help' to stop stuttering and this incorrect belief (or habit forming) is what attaches importance to the trigger, creating a stutter expectation.