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commentr/StutterMar 30, 2018
1 points

Maybe, maybe not. What if they're laughing about your hair? Try to view stuff like behind the back gossip as just that. I do the same thing, I think 'we' tend to put MUCH more focus on other people'...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentValidation & Empathy+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 29, 2018
17 points

I'm the same way. I have a tiny voice in my head, "Damnit, I was fluent during the first time!"...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterMar 29, 2018
1 points

My GOAT coping mechanism got ruined by a friend (which I know that he didn't intended to make me feel bad about it). I have a hard time explaining things to people without stuttering, especially if...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 29, 2018
1 points

When asked to repeat something it’s kind of a “reset button” for me. More often than not it comes out way easier and better the second time. Although your example is pretty specific. I don’t know abo...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring
commentr/StutterMar 28, 2018
25 points

Run through the sentence, no not that word, can't start a sentence with an h, change it to that, ok, no pause, here I go... Didn't come out, no one noticed, than God, ok, 1...2... Topics changed, than...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Anticipating StutteringAvoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 27, 2018
3 points

Preparing what I say ahead of time. Exhausting - so I stop this practice at the end of the day with family. Switch words. Having stuttering has been a blessing for my vocabulary - although I consider...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentPreparation & Rehearsal+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 27, 2018
2 points

Highly urge you to reconsider. This is as far of an avoidance mechanism as possible! Changing your name is the same as word replacing, only you are literally losing your identity. The reason you stutt...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+2 more
commentr/StutterMar 26, 2018
8 points

I would go to speech therapy and have this be a central focus. Unless you have tourettes, this is a learned involuntary behavior and have become automatic. But it can be slowly unlearned or rather, re...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesPhysical Tension
commentr/StutterMar 26, 2018
1 points

Yeah, definitely not all about psychology and not about the sounds, plosives are hard for some people. The good thing about difficult sounds though is that is something you can effectively work to imp...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityTherapy & Professional
Avoidance & SubstitutionTrauma & PsychologicalPositive Therapy Techniques
commentr/StutterMar 26, 2018
6 points

I say don’t say anything and just deal with it. I have a mild stutter too and have often contemplated telling people at my new jobs about it but I never do and things always turn out fine. People get ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterMar 26, 2018
3 points

Is it worth telling boss or just deal with it?

Is it worth telling boss or just deal with it? Just got a job at a nonprofit in DC area. I'm almost 24 and have had professional jobs before but this is the first time I will have calls coming in to ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & CareerHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterMar 26, 2018
8 points

I stutter more around my family because I let my guard down. I’m relaxed. Do not really want to use my speech tools with them like I feel I must in the world out there. It’s my natural state....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterMar 24, 2018
1 points

It's nice to hear people using similar strategies as I do! Generally Shifting dialect Hiding/changing words I often imagine myself walking out of a door, sometimes I feel stuttery if I feel that I ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterMar 23, 2018
6 points

If I'm going to a spoken exam (or making a speech, phonecall etc), instead of making a script word-by-word, I'll approach the situation with a general idea of what to say instead and improvise. If I ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalEnvironmental Triggers
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2018
9 points

In my case I barely stutter when I'm talking to someone who I'm very attached to. But I stutter a lot when I'm excited, nervous or ashamed (whoever I'm talking to) So I just try to stay calm, and not ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentAcceptance & Pride
postr/StutterMar 22, 2018
15 points

How do you deal with telephone-phobia?

How do you deal with telephone-phobia? I'm 25, been stuttering my whole life, been scared of telephones for half of that time. I won't go through the frustrations of telephone calls that we face (as I...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
postr/StutterMar 22, 2018
7 points

Changing my name - I think it will significantly help my social skills in spite of my stutter

Changing my name - I think it will significantly help my social skills in spite of my stutter I have been a stutterer since I was about 5 years old. Not sure how I got it - I might have been mimicking...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2018
6 points

I had a terrible phone interview a few months back. I mean absolutely awful. I ended up getting the job anyway. I advertised that I stuttered at the end (I should have done it at the start), and that ...

Social & RelationshipsSchool & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersEmployment & CareerAvoidance & Substitution
postr/StutterMar 21, 2018
10 points

Need to rant. Had the worst phone interview I've had in my life.

Need to rant. Had the worst phone interview I've had in my life. I just finished up with a phone interview for a summer internship. It was just so bad and I could feel how uncomfortable the interviewe...

School & WorkAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Employment & CareerFeared Words & NamesAnxiety & Social Judgment+2 more
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2018
1 points

I have a bit of twitch in my right eye which I really hate. Normally people can't tell I stutter due to all of my substitutions and not speaking at certain times but with my twitch I just look a bit w...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionPhysical Tension