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commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
2 points

I have struggled for many years with answering a call and saying “hello”. I’m fine with the rest of the call, I’ll stutter here and there, but I can get the words out. What works for me right now i...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionFeared Words & Names
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
1 points

Instead of hello say “what’s up” or “boogie 2988 coming at you live trough the power of the internet” “or even hαí, my name is (what) my name is (who) my name is chka. Chka slim shady”...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
1 points

I do find that I feel comfortable standing/walking and talking. If I need to make a phone call or recieve one I always like to go out of the room. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
3 points

If its the word hello and the ‘h’ sound, try ello or allo. Just be very very casual. Even just a ‘yup’ or ‘hey’ are acceptable responses to a phone call. ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
3 points

I really struggle with hello as well. Very difficult to substitute for another word. There are apps out there where you can speak to strangers, and you can practice speaking to them. Say hypothetical...

Anticipation & AvoidanceTherapy & Professional
Avoidance & SubstitutionSeeking Therapy
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
3 points

If it’s the H, you can say Good Day or Good Afternoon/Morning. But I get you - the overthinking makes it so much worse. I have to talk on the phone for work sometimes. I take a deep breath, stand...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindfulness & Breathing
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
3 points

Yea, when we don't practice is gives our mind too much time to think in advance of the moment, causing the anxiety and the stuttering. In life, the goal is to kind of stay in the moment and take each ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
1 points

I used to work in a takeaway shop where I took phone orders and I had no problem speaking. I think the anxiety has come back because I'm sort of "out of practice". But I do remember freezing up at tha...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2018
7 points

I've gotten so many spam calls the past couple of years that I can answer without much thought. Before though, I would answer, wait a second or two, then say "hello" without stressing or emphasizing t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 6, 2018
1 points

Sometimes adding a soft "m" to the beginning of a word you know will be tough to get through helps. If you do it enough it becomes almost unnoticeable. Providing "M" isn't an issue for you....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency Techniques
commentr/StutterJun 6, 2018
1 points

Yes, but I notice that sometimes I am not done talking and they fill in the wrong sentence. Like they don't let me finish talking....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionListener Reactions
commentr/StutterJun 5, 2018
2 points

My brother would tape record himself asking to speak to his friend Adam in case his parents picked up the phone (back in the early 90's). For most stutters Adam is not a easy name. Recording: "Hi is...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 5, 2018
1 points

You can't let your stutter hold you back, I was at the same crossroads as you. I wanted to become an attorney out of high school but I convinced myself to not pursue that career due to my stutter. Tru...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHelplessness & AgencyHope & Motivation+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
2 points

I'd agree with that usage. Things like grubhub are just convenient. But it seemed like a lot of people in this thread were thinking more along the avoiding line....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionQuality of Life
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
1 points

I’ve had exactly the same experience. I also use the phone at work often and I no longer freak out if I need to call the bank on a complex issue. My point though is that the phone is a piece of tech...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionQuality of Life
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
6 points

My stuttering and anxiety only improved when I stopped avoiding speaking situations. When we find a way to get around speaking we reenforce the stuttering narrative. There will be a time you have to s...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+2 more
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
4 points

I disagree about giving into fear. Yes, talking on the phone absolutely gets easier — anything scary does. Why not cut out the unnecessary stresses in life? People used to only drive manual transmiss...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionQuality of Life
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
4 points

Finish saying the word yourself anyway. That's what I do. They eventually learn it's not going to speed things up. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
6 points

my sister-in-law does that. She'll try to finish every single sentence I say, with a string of words that are completely wrong. Just random words. Even if she says the right word I'll still finish my ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionListener Reactions
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2018
4 points

Yeah, sometimes. It used to annoy me way more - so much, in fact, that I told people around me to not do it. But over the years, I've changed my approach. I'm going to say my word, regardless of anyon...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAcceptance & Pride