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postr/StutterFeb 19, 2019
118 points

I've been stuttering for 43 years -- here's my story.

I've been stuttering for 43 years -- here's my story. I want to share what I have learned over the years in the hope that I can be helpful to others that are struggling. It feels really good to write ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Anticipating StutteringFeared Words & NamesAvoidance & Substitution+3 more
commentr/StutterFeb 19, 2019
2 points

The less I speak, the worse it gets. For me it helped just going out there and power through. After a time, it got better....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterFeb 19, 2019
5 points

Yeah think before you speak it's just ignorant bullshit. The only advice someone uneducated in the subject can give to a stutterer is "stutter all you like. I don't care. I'll still be listening whe...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & Support
Avoidance & SubstitutionAdvice Offered
commentr/StutterFeb 18, 2019
3 points

I've thought that exact same thing about not being able to express myself the way I want to. I also have a small lisp so I've always lacked confidence in my voice in general, which is pretty sad. It g...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 18, 2019
2 points

this pisses me off too much I think it's time for them to stop giving us suggestions which would make our situation worse off. When I get a really bad block in front of everyone, I reveal my true i...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 18, 2019
2 points

I wordsmith my way around words I get blocks on. ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterFeb 18, 2019
2 points

I've been lucky enough to have people around me that don't mention and/or notice it much. Still I find myself trying to avoid conversation. ...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Loneliness & IsolationAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterFeb 18, 2019
3 points

My mom told me this growing up too. I just wanna get everything out so fast, it gets jumbled up lol. It actually does help me to stop talking and start again. ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring
commentr/StutterFeb 18, 2019
6 points

I just be like fuck it whatever happens happens. When I was younger I would avoid a lot of social situations but you can’t live life that way. If people don’t associate with you because you stutter th...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAvoidance & SubstitutionHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
3 points

As awful as it sounds, I push myself to be in more social situations. It teaches me what techniques help and what don’t. It also forces me to be calm. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
3 points

Here's from my experience. Sit down relaxed smiling at the other person, casually look them in their eyes. Any experienced person will start with small, getting to know you questions. Try to build a t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
4 points

I had the exact same thing happen to me last week. One of the HR persons called out of the blue and asked me a few additional questions and I could barely get any words out and I was embarrassed beyon...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentEmployment & Career
postr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
8 points

Does anyone here have experience with tinder?

Does anyone here have experience with tinder? As a stutterer, it’s hard for me to start a conversation with women or even approach them. I feel like tinder is a good way to avoid the approaching part,...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentDating & Romance
postr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
38 points

Botched my phone interview, yet they still moved me forward.

Botched my phone interview, yet they still moved me forward. Last week I had a phone interview as I am looking for work despite my stuttering being at its worst in years. The recruiter called me and ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
1 points

I do the exact same. My vocabulary is extensive and I use this to my advantage when I can't articulate as I want to. Round table introductions are the worst and the nature of my job requires it ofte...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
2 points

You're not alone, it's happened and continues to happen to many of us. Like you, this often happens to me at work. I can't say a word and I'll play dumb like I've forgotten... Such is life. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
2 points

let me try to explain, i don't know if this will make sense! i remember at a younger age switching the way i stuttered from a regular stutter to a block. i started blocking because i thought waiting a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringSituational Variability+3 more
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
2 points

We have all been there man. I have had similar instances throughout my life. I would cope by becoming completing numb and just locking up my feelings so to speak. However all the feelings would come h...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2019
5 points

I’ve had many similar experiences. For example once in religion class in was asked a question and the answer was “muslim” and I was there for about 10 seconds (though it felt like a minute) just going...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2019
1 points

Its really disappointing that i don't stutter around my younger brother who is 4, but have blocks when ordering food, asking for directions and general anxiety. What sucks the most is when I know im i...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social Judgment