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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2024
1 points

I am confident. Some might say too much so. I accept myself for the person I am now and the person I know I can be. I can be articulate and captivating. Stutter stands in the way of my ideal, so I don...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride+1 more
postr/StutterMar 20, 2024
17 points

I was completely wrong about my stutter...

I was completely wrong about my stutter... During the pandemic, I decided to return to speech therapy after a decade without it. I reached out to the SLP program at my university and began participati...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterMar 20, 2024
4 points

In your own experience, is holding eye contact helpful to get past a block, or just an avoidance behavior basically a trick?

In your own experience, is holding eye contact helpful to get past a block, or just an avoidance behavior basically a trick? ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterMar 18, 2024
40 points

I have realised that I don’t care

I have realised that I don’t care I don’t know how to explain what I mean by this. For a long time, I really wanted to be rid of it. Then, I finally accepted that it probably isn’t possible to be rid ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 14, 2024
2 points

My condolences. You're right, I am striving to not be ashamed to stutter everyday and I am making good progress. I guess when my stutter became so bad at one point, I was just happy to stutter and ju...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingShame & Embarrassment
postr/StutterMar 14, 2024
33 points

Positivity to you all

Positivity to you all As I go through old photos to prep for my mom’s funeral, I Iook through all the facades I’ve put on over the years. Don’t hide who you are, don’t spend years being ashamed as I ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2024
3 points

I do this to and I believe the aversion of my eyes is my brain instinctively focusing on the stutter or trying to “correct” my speech what’s been helping me though is diving into the uncomfortable, ho...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2024
2 points

Fluent speakers can speak fluently without this. As well as most of us when we are alone. You can try it yourself. You can imitate stuttering when you are alone and see that you can stop at any time....

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Authenticity vs. MaskingExperiential Association
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2024
1 points

I have a mild to nearly non existent stutter most days, but I will stutter and block endlessly during interviews or any other stressful speaking situation. I’ve had a lot of interview experience and t...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2024
1 points

Yes, I think a lot of stutterers do it. I in fact am one. In my case, want to go lightning-fast to get rid of it unconsciously, and it just makes it worse. When I'm in a calm situation or with nothin...

Identity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Authenticity vs. MaskingRepetitions & Prolongations
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2024
4 points

I fell into a bad habit of knowing that if I just stayed agreeable, my nervous system would not get aggravated and then the stutter wouldn’t come about. In my 40's now and dealing with a life (you do...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2024
2 points

I have a severe stutter and spent almost 15 years in therapy. My stutter was worse when I finally left therapy than when I started. The techniques and tricks of traditional therapy don't work because ...

Therapy & ProfessionalIdentity & Disability
Seeking TherapyTherapy ExperiencesUnhelpful Therapy Techniques+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2024
4 points

I hear ya, just here to talk about stuttering, tricks to get by and the psychological effects it’s had and pass on my lessons to those who are going through what I went through....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionTrauma & PsychologicalAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
6 points

>*"Why we don't stutter when we are alone and why we do stutter when with other people? "* I believe it's likely the same answer to the question, why don't we stutter when silent mouthing a word (ak...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingPhysical Tension
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
2 points

You will be able to speak at your natural pace. You set aside 15 mins during the day to practice the metronome pace. The rest of the day you can speak normally. In the video, he also mentioned addin...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Stress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
5 points

Something that helped me was being spontaneous and funny, even though my personality was the opposite of that. I started creating an alter ego that would be exactly what I described above, I started ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 8, 2024
1 points

Thanks for the tips! Yeah talking slow definitely helps a lot, though sometimes I feel like I use speaking fast as a mechanism to blend a word that I know I’m gonna stutter on into another. That’s so ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/stutteringMar 8, 2024
1 points

Suffered with a stutter for years and had to do many presentations. Best thing I found, is not to read from a script or keep any of your points word for word. Almost do it off the cuff so you can stee...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 6, 2024
4 points

exactly. I try to "compensate" for my stuttering with perfectionism in everything I do. and like you said, everyone gives me attention and approval. At school everyone always waited for my presenta...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 6, 2024
3 points

Great! Love your strategy. Is genius. You accept the fact that you can´t (at least for now) stutter proudly so you manage your options. I can see how it works and why it reduces your anxiety. There...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking