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commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
1 points

I hate this advice so, so much and it is wrong. Let the crutch be destroyed (which it won’t for a while), then find another one....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
4 points

The best trick is to be who you are and don't try to fake it. What are you doing is destructive and it will eventually backfire. It's a crutch made of sand that will be destroyed. Just struggle throug...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
6 points

I am M23 and my stutter is relatively hard, in my opinion... In most situations I am not able to say what's on my mind, but when I am with my family or friends, it is sometimes totally alright, somet...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & Agency+3 more
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
2 points

Thank you so much! My summary: * 0:30: In certain situations, we can say anything * 1:00 Why do we depend on other people to say anything? (like picking up the phone, we get scared and block) Ask yo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 1, 2024
8 points

I don't mean this to sound as harsh as it does, but you're making it harder than it needs to be, or you could make it easier by not trying to hide your stutter all the time. Of course the path and wor...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityTherapy & Professional
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingSeeking Therapy+1 more
commentr/StutterApr 1, 2024
70 points

I think you misspoke. Your mask came off today and imo, you should be relieved. Everyone has bad days and I think you are being hard on yourself. Tomorrow will be a better day but avoidant behavior ca...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 31, 2024
4 points

Yea I do. I have other disorders, ADHD and NVLD which I've been diagnosed for. If I have just had stuttering, I would still say I have a disability since mine can get severe, especially at a new job...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterMar 30, 2024
8 points

Congrats on getting a job. Nice one, interviews in particular are often difficult to navigate for us. Negative feedback loops are terrible. You speak a customer, it goes poorly, your manager is unsup...

School & WorkIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Employment & CareerAuthenticity vs. MaskingListener Reactions
commentr/StutterMar 25, 2024
5 points

I wonder if our love for singing is an escape from our normal stuttering speech, since we have perfect control of our speech patterns...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Situational VariabilityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 25, 2024
2 points

I don't agree. Representation can be a good thing, even if it's not authentic (actors act - it's what they do). It won't be watertight but that's the same for all performance. Best thing is to do the...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 25, 2024
2 points

You need to flesh out your idea here. What depth would be added by disability? How would it add to the anti-war message in the monologue? Are you a professional actor or a drama student? The subject ...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Situational VariabilityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2024
1 points

I might have spoken wrong. No one speaks completely fluently. However, we seek to speak without having a handicap or an impediment. I have reached that....

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2024
2 points

I was coming in here to strongly disagree with the title but if you change "stuttering" to "avoidance" I think you have a pretty good post (minus the breathing stuff).  You are correct, if you chang...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2024
2 points

Nope, I find it makes it worse for me actually. Tried that before a job interview and I could barely talk....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2024
3 points

Maybe you can make a poll instead. I'm interested in everyone's answer also. For me, telling people that I stutter, leads to stuttering more because then I start identifying myself as a person who stu...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anticipating StutteringAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 22, 2024
5 points

I think it probably would. I hate acknowledging my stutter so I could never do it...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2024
1 points

Interesting! I'm sure there are outliers to what I described, and we're always learning more about stuttering as time progresses so I don't claim to have the final word on things. I do think that how ...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterMar 21, 2024
41 points

I just had a great day

I just had a great day Last week my boss told me that I had to do a presentation on the work I've been doing last year. The goal was to share the results I had encountered with colleagues from other d...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2024
3 points

Happened to me today at school. Had a friend who knows I have a speech impediment but for some reason I don’t really stutter around him. But today I did have a bad stutter while talking to him, we jus...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 21, 2024
2 points

My summary of this **great** video: * use positive affirmations: "**I'm already fluent**" (to deal with the high expectations/anxiety/pressure of stuttering) (to feel like we can say anything) * be a...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception