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commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

Someone told me once they were afraid of talking to me because of the „effort“ I had to do to speak and they basically didn‘t want to bother me (I‘m very shy). I explained that it doesn‘t really work ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

yeah I also noticed that my stutter varies from language to language, like it does from situation to situation and of course from people to people. but A's are one of my worst enemies, maybe the worst...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesStress & Fight/FlightSituational Variability+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

For it me it would not really mean much until I see the person natural reactions to my stutter. It doesn't make any sense if they say that my stutter is likable when he or she reacts just like every n...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentListener Reactions
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

I’ve always felt like they were patronizing me. Telling me how likeable it was when in reality it will just be a ploy used by everyone around me to use against me, eventually.Seeing how differently I ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

Try to disregard those who ignore you. People can be extremely shallow, and actively avoid anyone they deem weird/unconventional/abnormal. These folks aren’t worth your time....

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
2 points

Thank you! I'll give this a try too. I'm just glad to know that I'm not the only one. It makes me feel so much better about my current situation. And absolutely #PhonesAreEvil haha...

Community & SupportEmotional Experience
Validation & EmpathyAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
2 points

That's good that you don't avoid speaking anymore. However, there are other things, body language, that still could be sending the signal of "Avoid, avoid". It also could be that people around you are...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
2 points

I'll definitely give that a shot. I feel like I've tried everything. I'm trying not to let it get me down and push past it. It's just so hard to get over when your own customer starts making you feel ...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment
postr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
9 points

Phone stutter

Phone stutter Hey guys, just started following this sub. I've been dealing with an embarrassing phone stutter for about a year and a half to two years now. It happens every time I go to answer the pho...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceMeds & Substances
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

When I ask her if she has a problem with my stutter, she said no. The first time I asked her out if she wants to hang out, she said okay. We started talking and laughing. I wasn't stuttering that much...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentDating & Romance
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
-2 points

No, I’m attempting to actively engage. If I was an introverted coward I wouldn’t be wondering why I was being ignored. Take your assumptions somewhere else....

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAudience Scale & Group Size
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
6 points

A lot of people just don’t give a fuck. As stutters we over think a lot of things. If you don’t want to be ignored, simply put yourself into the light and be the center of attention. I’m guessing you’...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAudience Scale & Group Size
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
2 points

that’s not what is happening. I do get along with these people a lot of the time. They’re friends. Sometimes I’m just ignored for no reason when trying to make conversation when I KNOW I was heard....

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment
postr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
2 points

4 presentations in less than one month

4 presentations in less than one month I'm in year 10 in a German school. we will have to give a presentation in Geography (2 students together), Music (2 students together), Computer Science (3 stude...

Emotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Anxiety & Social JudgmentSchool & Academic Life
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
3 points

I totally resonate with that last sentence.. But as frustrating as it is, you shouldn't think too much about it! Just be yourself and don't worry about others' behaviour. We never know what actually g...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
1 points

I wonder this same thing everyday. Feel the same when talking online as well even though I'm obviously not physically talking. Think it partially might be us overthinking it, but some people are certa...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentOverthinking & Monitoring
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
10 points

It’s weird. Some people respond to me just fine at times and then the next day I’m just totally ignored— at this point I’m wondering if it’s just the people and not me or if I’m somehow not assertive ...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Anxiety & Social JudgmentListener ReactionsLoneliness & Isolation
commentr/StutterFeb 25, 2020
22 points

I feel you on this one. I'm just as puzzled on why this happens, but if I were to make a guess.. I believe it could be due to how long it takes us stutterers to deliver our thoughts properly, which ca...

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commentr/StutterFeb 24, 2020
1 points

I noticed this about myself too. Usually when I am around certain figureheads or leaders at political conferences, lectures, luncheons, and so on. I automatically feel anxious....

Emotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Anxiety & Social JudgmentPower Dynamics & Intimidation
commentr/StutterFeb 24, 2020
5 points

Of course, people stutter for different reasons (genetics, anxiety, trauma, etc.) and it’s a spectrum. There’s MANY disorders linked to stuttering which I didn’t find out until recently either...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Genetic & Family FactorsTrauma & PsychologicalAnxiety & Social Judgment