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commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2020
5 points

For some reason this gives me anxiety herring about a potential cure. I always thought this may be forever. Weird and I don’t know if I want to change after everything I’ve experienced. It would be li...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2020
11 points

Reading that felt like reading a recollection of my own highschool experience and I'm not sure if you're looking for support with this post but I can say it definitely get's better. Since getting to c...

Identity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Acceptance & PrideSchool & Academic LifeEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2020
1 points

The main thing: never ever make him think that he stutters because he is not doing something right or that he needs to work harder to eliminate it. Always make him feel like stutter is okay, even cool...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2020
6 points

Lifelong stutterer here. Currently 43 with a good career and have a pretty solid handle on my stutter these days, but wasn’t always the case. I was a pretty happy go lucky kid too, except when it came...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentHope & Motivation+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2020
1 points

You sound like me. Same symptoms, same thinking behind the cause. Anyway, I've made strides. I credit Toastmasters, Lee Lovett's book (google it), self-confidence affirmations, self-confidence CBT ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesMindfulness & Breathing+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 10, 2020
1 points

i don’t take them anymore because i don’t really stutter anymore and when i do, i don’t really care. made a post on here about it if you wanna read. the xanax isn’t a cure, and you’ll start to get use...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideAvoidance & SubstitutionMindset shift
commentr/StutterFeb 10, 2020
17 points

Take it from a 49 yo stutterer. I had the same group job interview (they call it panel interviews in hospitals) and when I walked in I disclosed my stutter before I greeted the 5 panel members. Th...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAcceptance & PridePreparation & Rehearsal+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 8, 2020
9 points

I love this! Whenever I'm going through a fluent period and people congratulate me on "overcoming" my stutter, I always correct them. There is no overcoming it. We deal with it every day!...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterFeb 8, 2020
3 points

She already knows you stutter and will still have dinner with you? Stutter with a smile my friend. Some girls dig it....

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Acceptance & PrideDating & Romance
commentr/StutterFeb 6, 2020
3 points

It would be great not to hate it and feel ashamed by it. Then those comments wouldn't hurt so much....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 6, 2020
1 points

For me it was owning it. Just telling any person who could become a part of my life or someone who i meed to work with that i stutter. Stuttering doesnt make you less of a man or a human. Its not som...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterFeb 6, 2020
4 points

>As a man, I’m expected to be the “protector” in a relationship. Masculinity is embodied by confidence, charisma and and assertiveness. Isn't this what we call "toxic masculinity"?... I mean, who...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 6, 2020
3 points

be the strong silent type. How old are you if i may ask? i got to an age where i didnt really give a shit anymore. If anyone thought i wasnt a "man" because i couldnt speak right then they could fuc...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 5, 2020
12 points

YES!!!! Me too!! I do not give a 💩 about my stutter and my life has gotten better. I focus on living and not my stutter. My fluency has improved but I still have blocks but the main difference is ...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Acceptance & PrideSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterFeb 5, 2020
17 points

This is possibly one of the most important things you can hear OP. The most masculine thing to do is to own yourself and be your own person without letting other people control you with things they're...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 5, 2020
47 points

I really focused on mastering the art of not giving a fuck. My stutter is moderate, at times severe and really messed with me as a teen and young adult. The social anxiety was crippling, so I really f...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+2 more
commentr/StutterFeb 3, 2020
5 points

I don't pretend, no. I stutter if I must, and that's that. There's no reason to hide a stutter. It's just a thing that some people have. The world doesn't fall apart just because someone stutters. If ...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterFeb 2, 2020
2 points

I used to be the same way and talking to people online via text made it so much easier for me to talk to people offline via words because now I know how conversation works. I have an amazing boyfriend...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterFeb 2, 2020
1 points

I have a stutter, dating hasn't been an issue for me. Two things are very important! 1. Tell them you have a stutter. Nothing to be ashamed of. You don't wanna date someone who can't see past it. 2...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Dating & RomanceAcceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterFeb 2, 2020
1 points

I think the best help, but also the most time consuming and hardest help is to accept it. to accept yourself WITH the stutter. seeing the enemy as a friend. many people have problems with accepting th...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation