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commentr/StutterAug 15, 2016
5 points

>It's not your fault you have a stutter. You need to tell her that. Write her a letter if you have to, express your feelings, but in as a calm and compassionate manner as possible. You need to tell...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & BullyingFamily Support & Conflict
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2016
9 points

This is.... a difficult situation. It's not your fault you have a stutter. You need to tell her that. Write her a letter if you have to, express your feelings, but in as a calm and compassionate mann...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & BullyingFamily Support & Conflict
commentr/StutterAug 15, 2016
1 points

Thank you all. And yes, as you say Claypigeon, i'am drawing my lack-of-value from my stutter, and this is the problem, despite my efforts (i have a job, hobbies, some friends), my stuttering has the s...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & AgencyIdentity & Self-Perception
postr/StutterAug 14, 2016
11 points

What did you do to reduce your shame ?

What did you do to reduce your shame ? My biggest problem is that feeling of shame that overwhelms me, every time I stutter. What did you do to reduce this feeling ? I'am 32 and i've never be so asham...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 12, 2016
5 points

I feel you. I realized it became a vicious cycle in my daily life now. Confident > fluent > feeling good > stutters > embarrassed > shatters confidence > depression. Then eventuall...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterAug 12, 2016
6 points

It's the people's abysmal reaction that I really hate. Stuttering itself isn't anything I hate on ita own...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
postr/StutterAug 11, 2016
18 points

Self esteem got completely crushed today........FML

Self esteem got completely crushed today........FML Long story short I stuttered like crazy today in the multiple interactions that I had. Many times I was interrupted or just plain simply ignored. I ...

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterAug 8, 2016
3 points

Please don't be ignorant of stutterers who are worse off than you. That's unbecoming of someone who communicates within a stuttering community....

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Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterAug 8, 2016
12 points

>You can sit there and **pout** all you want, it will not change a thing. This is basically shaming all those who have severe difficulties with stuttering - as if it's entirely their own fault. P...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterAug 7, 2016
1 points

yeah I find that thinking about not stuttering / blocking is bringing it more into focus in my mind and I do it more....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Overthinking & MonitoringShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2016
2 points

I have to agree with you, I feel like I stutter more when I think about it than when I don't, and when I'm being rather fluent for a conversation then stutter, it's harder to avoid it happening again ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Overthinking & MonitoringShame & EmbarrassmentAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2016
3 points

Agreed. I cannot be the person I want to be because of my stutter. I cannot be "okay" with weird facial expressions, choppy speech, and physical exhaustion....

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & StutteringCauses & Variability
Shame & EmbarrassmentPhysical TensionEnergy & Biological Rhythms
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2016
3 points

I don't know why people say this, sure people have their quirks but stuttering has caused me so much pain I feel like it's incomparable... (Don't hate me plz)...

Emotional ExperienceCauses & Variability
Shame & EmbarrassmentSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterAug 2, 2016
3 points

I can relate to this perfectly, some of the acting I can even transform to real life but then it becomes like a crutch you can't walk without. Asking for favors is one of the biggest stutter trigger f...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterAug 2, 2016
1 points

The worst thing a person can do to me is to be sympathetic and feel bad for me when i talk to them. I hear people say they feel bad for me because i have a stutter, or they with they could protect me ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterJul 29, 2016
3 points

You don't need friends to live. I have not had a single friend since high school. And looking back on it that is a very good thing since those "friends" were nothing but opportunistic users. One of th...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Stigma & BullyingShame & EmbarrassmentFriendships & Belonging
commentr/StutterJul 29, 2016
3 points

I hear you. I've also come to the point in my life where I realise that I've been wrong, oh so wrong, by avoiding social life at any cost. I used to think I was saving myself from constant and perpetu...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Loneliness & IsolationShame & EmbarrassmentHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJul 27, 2016
2 points

I completely feel you man, I really think this is the reason why I'm much more comfortable texting people and whatnot. Because of the stuttering and constant blocks in speech I've been having it's ver...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment
postr/StutterJul 25, 2016
9 points

Really struggling with this...

Really struggling with this... I feel like people's first opinion of me is I'm retarded because of my stutter...i hate myself so much for it i lock myself up in my room everyday and bail out on friend...

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentSadness & HopelessnessSuicidal Ideation & High Distress
commentr/StutterJul 25, 2016
1 points

I feel like people's first opinion of me is I'm retarded because of my stutter...i hate myself so much for it i lock myself up in my room everyday and bail out on friends because i can't take someone ...

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerSuicidal Ideation & High Distress