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commentr/StutterAug 6, 2018
1 points

He's right but he also doesn't understand how difficult it is. I say do what your comfortable with but try a little....

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commentr/StutterAug 5, 2018
1 points

Why 'can't' you just talk? Is it just because you're embarrassed to stutter or it makes you feel too vulnerable? Because those are unhealthy mindsets and the best way to smash them is to just expose y...

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Trauma & PsychologicalHelplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2018
3 points

It's a two way street. We know how frustrating it is. Personally I hate being told that. The thing is, that hyper-awareness is very real and arguably just as damaging as struggling to communicate. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2018
6 points

You can, but you don't have to if you don't want to. It is an opportunity to be vulnerable and practice your speech though. And make sure he really means it when he says he doesn't care, I know some p...

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commentr/StutterAug 4, 2018
1 points

> One thing I'm kind of iffy on is when the end of their arc is them delivering an important speech totally fluently. I feel like that shouldn't be the end goal or the peak of their life in the nov...

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Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 3, 2018
1 points

Thanks for this, hugely helpful! I think you're absolutely right. The story needs to stand on its own two feet regardless of the stuttering issue. Out of curiosity, do you work with YA fiction? As you...

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commentr/StutterAug 3, 2018
1 points

I have mixed feelings about your happy ending because I turned down theater roles in school BECAUSE of my stutter. (I'm a covert stutterer too.) There was no way I was going to stutter on stage and ha...

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postr/StutterAug 3, 2018
8 points

Question about a book I'm thinking of writing

Question about a book I'm thinking of writing Hey guys, I'm a covert (and sometimes not so covert) stutterer, and have been for pretty much all of my life. I'm 48 now, so that's a long time. ;) I'm a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 2, 2018
7 points

I think mindfulness has helped me a ton. So much of what makes stuttering bad is the shit we do trying to get out of, prevent, or avoid it. Mindfulness tells you to learn to be ok in each moment. It’s...

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postr/StutterAug 1, 2018
8 points

I've been avoiding retail and customer service jobs like the plague!

I've been avoiding retail and customer service jobs like the plague! I work full time in a non-speaking position (dream job for a stutterer, right?), but I want to earn a little extra cash to knock my...

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postr/StutterJul 30, 2018
17 points

Table for One - a Poem about Stuttering by me

Table for One - a Poem about Stuttering by me **Table for One** I can be a very good listener. If God willed, I could also be a good Talker. I am not mute. If I were mute, perhaps I could learn si...

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commentr/StutterJul 24, 2018
2 points

>**We** (people who are **fluent**) can **hide** our bad days. >**I** have the choice to **hide** and I need to make the choice not to. That's confusing. Do you stutter or don't you?...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 23, 2018
3 points

Wow I'd never heard of this. I 100% believe I suffered from that for many years. This is surreal to read. It feels like reading my own thoughts. I think I've worked my way out of it recently (ironical...

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commentr/StutterJul 22, 2018
3 points

I have a mild stutter and I'm generally not afraid to speak. I'm still a sorta quiet person but that's not a bad thing. But of course being under a microphone is relatively scary. I just got a bit sel...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2018
2 points

Thank you very much for your response. Unfortunately, I already chickened out and dropped out of doing the presentation. I did very brief required reading in front of a class for my final but that’s a...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2018
2 points

It's good you took that job, but maybe you should quit and write books because damn! I wish I could upvote this more than once. Beautifully written. I kind of want to print it out and put it on my wal...

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Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJul 15, 2018
8 points

I have the exact same thing. I notice that it fluctuates depending on how tired I am, If I've eaten or my general mood. It is largely non existent when I'm with my girlfriend, because im comfortable w...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSeverity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 14, 2018
1 points

>Chicks do not want to fuck a perfect robot. People are attracted to one another's "rough edges." Stuttering is your "rough edge," and it makes you human, vulnerable, and will help disarm women. I...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 14, 2018
1 points

It’s an interesting dilemma to be sure. Stuttering can indeed be considered a disability but many people who stutter don’t consider themselves disabled. Because the ADA definition of disability is fai...

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commentr/StutterJul 13, 2018
14 points

I mean, over the internet, on social media? I'm a stutterer and I'd still wonder if I was getting trolled. Hell, I've *been* trolled in stutter voice chat by fluent speakers, lol. She did laugh and wa...

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